I can't help but notice my wife's "flaws" I truly think she is beautiful and I love her with everything I have. I feel guilty for noticing negative things about her appearance. If I don't like something she is wearing, I feel guilty and have to tell her. I end up hurting her. Not on purpose though. I would never purposely hurt her. I just need help. I wish she could know this isn't my fault, I can't control my thoughts. They never go away. I just want to know if this is really ocd or not. I feel horrible for unintentionally judging her for her weight or looks. I love her so much.