• Acknowledge that the OCD exists and try to learn about it.
• Remember that the OCD symptoms, however bizarre or extreme they may seem, are part of a treatable disorder. The symptoms are not personality traits or something that the person can just ’snap out of’.
• Do not regard OCD as the person’s fault and try not to believe that you or anyone else may have caused it.
• If the person decides to seek professional help, be supportive of that decision and encourage their determination to recover.
• Encourage the person with OCD to persist with their treatment, even when this seems difficult, and show appreciation of any improvement, however small.
• Remember that symptoms may wax and wane. Some days, the person may be able to deal with symptoms better than others. Each person needs to overcome their problems at their own pace, even though this may be a lengthy process.
• Allow the person to explain their problems to you. This will help them to feel less isolated and ashamed of their condition. The symptoms may seem unrealistic and irrational to you, but the fear for the person with OCD is very real.
• While supporting the person with OCD, try not to support the obsessions and compulsions. The worst thing to do is to give reassurance to the person that their fears are unfounded. If you do this, the person will not learn this for themselves and the disorder will persist. Encourage the person to fight against the obsessions and compulsions, but let them do the fighting.
• People with OCD are often aware of the humorous aspects of their obsessions and compulsions. This awareness can be used to help them distance themselves from the condition. However, resist mocking the person’s symptoms as this may cause additional stress, shame and embarrassment.
• At home, people with OCD should be encouraged to maintain as normal a lifestyle as possible. Families should not try to adapt their ways of doing things to accommodate the person’s obsessions and compulsions.
• Remember that OCD is tough for families to deal with. Continue to communicate with each other. Remember also that the family, friends and carers of people with OCD need help and support themselves. Make sure you continue to do things you enjoy and have people to talk to about your own feelings and concerns.

This advice sheet was prepared by The Priory Hospital in Roehampton.