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The title says it all. Yet another prospective lady gets in touch, says she's keen and then at the time of the tryout, says she can't do it anymore. Balls!

Tue May 18 2010 8:33:23 #
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Giles, I'm really sorry that you've been let down again. I know there are a few of us here who would jump at the chance! If I were younger, fitter...!!
Tricia x

Tue May 18 2010 14:06:05 #
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Sadly, it depends on priorities. Younger people simply do not have the time to dance, despite the strong need to. Priorities are different - They get married, have kids, careers, know that Giles is a rubbish dancer etc

Tue May 18 2010 16:11:28 #
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Hi Giles!
Desperate circumstances call for desperate measures and it is my opinion that you will need move the goal posts, to get a dance partner. I would therefore suggest advertising for an older partner.... someone in their late 30s - mid 40s You will be pleasantly surprised at how good they are, and you will be pleased at how dedicated and reliable they are. And contrary to popular belief, we older women are most definitely not over the hill (and quite choosy too if the truth be known :wink:)
Good Luck Giles and keep in touch !

Tue May 18 2010 18:26:04 #
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The problem is that if I enter over 35 competitons, how fair is it going to be? And would I have sense of achievement competing?

I find that they're not even interested either. I don't have a life without dancing. They're all laughing at me.

Tue May 18 2010 21:12:19 #
Truddles
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Giles,

I would volunteer myself as a potential dance partner.

But what with two left feet, arthritis and a slipped disc I don't think you'd win many competitions especially not with the hernia you'd develop from dragging me around the dance floor

I'm sure you'll find a new dance partner.

Tue May 18 2010 22:32:24 #
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It seems you have two choices - take less or take nothing. If you offered a starving man a bread roll (unbuttered) or offered him nothing - he would take the somewhat bland, but nonetheless filling bread roll, rather than starve. Are you choosing starvation, rather than lower your sights and accept a lesser but nonetheless, sustaining option?

Sorry to be so blunt, but a simple "Im sorry for your sad situation" from me, is not going to get you out of the sad situation you find yourself in - hence my pro active suggestion to lower your sights. For the time being, competing may not be an option. But hey, I can never take grades for my piano playing, because I cant read music, but that doesnt mean I have to stop playing the piano - and a damn good self taught pianist I am too, if i may say so myself
!!

And no one is laughing at you. This whole businesss is making you paranoid.

Nothing would make me happier than to see you get a dance partner and in time Im sure you will - you just mustnt give up and give in, for as you said, your dancing is too important to you.

Take care

Tue May 18 2010 22:42:30 #
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Number 6, I agree with you over your example of the starving man, but Giles’ situation is different. I don’t think a tennis player with talent and high ambition would settle for a twice monthly match with me! I sincerely hope that no-one is laughing at Giles, but I think it unfair to say he is paranoid without being there to observe what is happening. People can be cruel and I certainly wouldn’t rule it out. I’ve been made fun of for being dedicated to something and I would object to being called paranoid as well!

Giles, are there no magazines or organizations where you could look for a new partner? There are sure to be ladies who are as dedicated to their dancing as you.

Don’t give up!

Love, Tricia x

Wed May 19 2010 12:37:46 #
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Thanks for the replies Tricia and Number 6.

I wish there were organisations out there who could help, but alas, no.

I've cancelled my Newquay trip. I feel ridiculous and will never have any fun. I don't want to hang about with 2 couples in love for the week, making me feel pathetic within, so I'll partake in solitary pursuits next week

Thu May 20 2010 14:03:30 #
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Oh, Giles, I am really sorry to hear that. Could you reconsider? Can't you look at those young couples in a different light? Imagine how one day you'll be like them? I know it's hard, but remember I've seen your videos. There's no way you will go through the rest of your life single!!!

Tricia x

P.S. I know I owe you an e-mail. I'm running late again today, I'll explain what I've been doing when I write. I hope you'll approve! I also need your advice.

Thu May 20 2010 14:39:16 #
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What were you going to do at Newquay, Giles? Were you going there with some friends who are in relationships with each other ?

Thu May 20 2010 21:48:50 #
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We were going to go surfing. And yes, my friends have partners who are in relationships, and I just don't want to go where I don't belong. Plus I resent it.

Thu May 20 2010 22:10:39 #
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Will their partners be there? Also, are you friends male or female? Or both?

Thu May 20 2010 23:04:07 #
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Giles, You need help to get past the resentment you feel. I had friends who were in relationships many years before I ever even went out with anyone, but I never felt any resentment. The bitterness will show to others, even if they don’t know exactly what it is you are feeling.

My husband was thirty-two before he had a girlfriend (me). He rushed in when he met me, and look where that has landed him! Be patient, Giles, you are still very young and the special person you will meet one day will be worth the wait.

By the way, my husband (when he was single) used to go on holiday with a group of friends, all of whom were in relationships. It didn’t spoil his enjoyment of the holidays and he was welcomed by his friends and their partners. I doubt very much that you aren’t wanted.

Is it too late to change your mind?!

Tricia x

Fri May 21 2010 12:03:18 #
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I've decided to take a u-turn on my last decision and go to Newquay, but I may only go for a few days.

I never thought that finding a dance partner could be this difficult for us blokes. Looks like WE cannot afford to be picky anymore. Sadly, I think the same applies to relationships. None of us wants to be alone.

Sat May 22 2010 14:40:58 #
Jerama
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Good on you Giles. Go for it, you never know what opportunities will come your way or who you will meet.

J

Sat May 22 2010 21:19:10 #
stevieb
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Yes Giles, you may even meet a dance partner down there!! You never know, as Fate can be kind.

Sat May 22 2010 22:57:33 #
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I feel I can't go there because of a young lady at work. I want to put my love life on hold for her

Sun May 23 2010 22:23:31 #
stevieb
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That's very good that you like a girl at your workplace that much, Giles. Does this girl know you like her? You should ask her out before someone else does.

There's someone who I like very, very much at the moment. She doesn't live close to me, but I've contacted her, only not heard anything back yet. I can only hope.....

Anyway, when is it that you're going to Newquay?

Mon May 24 2010 19:55:33 #
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Been and gone. I didn't enjoy all of it and was getting jealous and bitter within, as my mate was all over his G/F - Well they were being affectionate all of the time, which is sweet I guess.

I had some good times but the bad times took the gloss out of it. Plus, I get back to find out yet another prospective dance partner has decided to waste my time, through no fault of her own. I've now bulk emailed another 10-odd dancers in the hope that someone will reply

Fri May 28 2010 13:53:51 #