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OCDLONELY
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Sorry to be posting something negative but I really need to vent. I'm trying so hard at the moment to face my fears and to put myself in situations I would normally avoid and it seems to be working to some extent. The problem is now I have dreams and hopes and every now and then something happens that makes me feel they could happen but then suddenly they are ripped away from me and I'm left confused and feeling hopeless. I have positive moments but something always goes wrong and it seems the more effort and hard work I put in fighting one front I'm attacked from another direction by low self-esteem and self-worth and just deep dark lows. It is scary and I do feel like giving up but I haven't yet and I really believe that if I did stop then that would be it for me. Any idea what I might be doing wrong? Any thoughts would be very much appreciated. Thank you

Mon Jan 11 2010 16:26:41 #
Truddles
Member

I too have dreams and aspirations and try to be positive and think that they will happen and then something happens and they are cruelly snatched away.

I think that the thing to do is to approach the future in small attainable steps, so that you can see that you are actually achieving something.

I want to do something that I wasn't able to do as a youngster - I want to go to university. I know that if I just focus on the end result it's going to be continually snatched from me. So I've broken it into small achievable steps that ultimately lead to my getting there.

Every time you achieve something however small it will boost your confidence and self esteem, but if you set your self an unattainable goal and you fail you'll knock your confidence even further.

So whatever your dreams break them down into small achievable steps and then you will realise your dreams.

Good luck

Mon Jan 11 2010 17:02:46 #
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Life is very cruel in this way, I don't think it's necessarily anything that you're doing wrong. People are disappointed and experience setbacks all the time, but I suppose for people like us who want so much to get over our anxieties and work so hard to do so, when we have these experiences they feel somehow even worse because we were already low to begin with. Please don't give up, keep trying to get better and realise your dreams. One day you will get to where you want, like Truddles has said, just break it down and take it one step at a time. Good luck.

Mon Jan 11 2010 17:13:05 #
aishah
Member

Hi ocdlonely, I have been on a real low today as well, tired of fighting. But having read this post it has reminded me of my dream. Only a few months ago I was working towards that goal, then OCD reared it's ugly head again and i feel like i'm back to square one again.

Truddles is right in saying to take small acheivable steps. It may take longer to get there but you will if you really want to. Don't give up on yourself.

Best Wishes
Bridget

Mon Jan 11 2010 17:26:26 #