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aishah
Member

Hi All,

I've decided to change my original post to this new one. My husband is severely depressed at the moment and I have gone downhill as a result. I am finding everything too much to bear.

Two weeks ago I had a few days where I felt quite well and was so happy and now I feel so bad. I feel guilty that my children have to see us like this and wonder how they feel, I'm too scared to ask them.

I am doing the right things in trying to fight it and have been to college twice this week but have no interest whatsover in meeting friends like I usually do.

I don't mean to be so negative but am wondering if I will be like this forever.
At least the intrusive thoughts are no too troublesome at the moment so I am grateful for that. To be honest I am more worried about my husband as I am stronger than him usually and more able to cope than him but seeing him suffer with anxiety and depression this bad is horrible.

I suppose I am scared that I will get worse and not be able to cope too.

Bridget

Thu Apr 7 2011 19:21:07 #
Ratwomble
Member

Hello again Bridget,

I've suffered from depression for a long time, although it comes in waves. I only realised how much OCD was a part of it in the last few years. So I sympathise. My wife does not suffer and she has been there for the kids and to help me through it. I can't imagine what it would be like if both of us were I'll at the same time.

I think I recall hat your husband was going to the gp. Did he get any Meds? If so do you think he'll take them. I must admit that when I was first diagnosed with clinical depression I was very anti drugs, but now I will take them by the handful if they help.

I do hope that things get better for you both. The nature of depression is that itnis cyclic, so inevitably things will get better, but that probably isn't much comfort to you right now.

Best wishes

David

Thu Apr 7 2011 19:48:35 #
aishah
Member

Hi David,

Thanks for your reply, it was nice to know someone was out there when I felt so low. My husband went to the G.P. as he said he would and was referred for counselling but has yet to make the phone call to arrange the appt.

He takes a low dose anti-depressant, has done for years but I think it needs reviewing, hopefully can persuade him to go back to G.P. to discuss this. The problem is my husband has a fear of going to doctors, hospital etc so it may be quite some time before I manage to get him to go again.

He has picked up in the last couple of days but I still remain quite depressed. I start another lot of CBT tomorrow so hopefully that will help.

I hope you and your family are ok.

Regards
Bridget

Sun Apr 10 2011 17:55:22 #
Ratwomble
Member

Dear Bridget,

Well done to your husband for going to the gp last week. Hopefully cbt will be a great help. I know it was for me. Is the cbt specifically aimed at depression or OCD?

Pm me if you want to discuss further, I don't think I've read how old your kids are, mine are 11 and 14 and they have come through this reasonably unscathed.

Andrew, my son, is active here as maxthedog, and if you haven't already PM'ed him then feel free to do so. He has a unique perspective here on parents with OCD!

Best wishes

David

P.s. All well here. Enjoying spring sunshine.

Sun Apr 10 2011 19:11:55 #
aishah
Member

Hi David,

My children are 15 and 22 yrs old the eldest is 2 years into his deree course and the other one is in the middle of GCSE's.

My husband has really picked up but my depression has got worse. I know it will ease up soon but I am finding everything really difficult at the moment and don't have any motivation to do much at all.

The CBT that I have just started is to treat my OCD but does also help with my depression as for me the two go hand in hand.

I've not been very active on the forum lately as I feel I don't have much to say right now but I will try to post sometimes as I have had a lot of support over the years.

Take care and hope you and the family are well.

Tue Apr 12 2011 17:48:45 #
Ratwomble
Member

Dear Bridget,

Over the last two weeks I have not let not having much to say stop me

I'm sorry to hear that your depression has got worse. It seems that they go hand in hand, the OCD and the depression.

On the other hand it is great news that your husband has picked up. Hopefully you will not be far behind him!

Best wishes

David

Tue Apr 12 2011 19:03:37 #