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OCDLONELY
Member

Its my 30th birthday tommorow and it just reminds me of all the years I've lost to depression and ocd. The years have gone by so fast and I haven't changed, I'm still trapped and can't see a way out. There is so much I have yet to do and the more I think about it the further out of reach it all feels. I don't want to be like this anymore.

Wed Jun 25 2008 17:38:26 #
stevieb
Member

[quote="OCDLONELY":1hb33ual]Its my 30th birthday tommorow and it just reminds me of all the years I've lost to depression and ocd. The years have gone by so fast and I haven't changed, I'm still trapped and can't see a way out. There is so much I have yet to do and the more I think about it the further out of reach it all feels. I don't want to be like this anymore.

I can understand how that feels, but at 30, you're still young with plenty of time left to enjoy yourself, and to overcome your OCD an depression. Just dont' lose hope, and don't lose focus. Even see this frustration you're feeling as a weapon against your anxieties.

Best of luck,
Steve

Wed Jun 25 2008 19:13:58 #
Capspersonalpost
Administrator

I agree with stevieb and I understand in my own way more than you may think about how you feel. But Stevieb is right, you are still young and have time to enjoy life. Make this birthday a turning point, show the OCD who is boss and that you will conquer it and take control of your own life. Easy said I know, but I am sure all of us out here wish that for you and will give you every encouragement and support.

Make the decision now, and more than anything have a happy birthday to remember - the turning point in your life.

With all best wishes,

Caps

Wed Jun 25 2008 20:56:48 #
stevieb
Member

Yes, and I forgot to say; have a very happy 30 birthday.

Steve

Wed Jun 25 2008 21:10:32 #
brennie
Member

HAPPY 30TH BIRTHDAY DANIEL

How i wish i was your age as you know Daniel i am nearing 60 double your age and i have suffered with this OCD from childhood, try not to let it rule your life too much Dan because it certainly will if you let it , i know how hard it is to fight everyday of your life with this condition but as Caps and Steve has said dont give up the fight . Perhaps when you go to the Bethlam Royal it could be the turning point in your young life, you are a young man with a future and as you said you have so many thing which you want to achieve , you can do it Dan because you have lots of friends who like you and admire you on this forum, we will give you all the support you need remember you are not OCDLONELY anymore ! you have us
Speak to you very soon Dan,

lots of love brennie xxxxxx

Thu Jun 26 2008 8:47:22 #
anxiousgal
Member

Hi Daniel!

I know what you mean I have a thing about turning certain ages. I was depressed when I turned 20 then 25, then 35 and last year when I turned 36! I dread each new Birthday coming up because I wonder where the time has gone and because of all the stress and disappointments. Even worse at Christmas! You probably seen my posts about worrying about the future whether I'll have kids, find a good career and all the rest of it! I think it's normal to worry about all that kind of stuff even if we didn't have OCD or depression though. I hope you enjoy your Birthday, just tell your OCd not to bother you on your special day! Remember your still here, you made it throguh another year dispite everything! Oh yeah and one more thing:

Luv natasha

Thu Jun 26 2008 11:02:06 #
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I'm thinking of you, Daniel, I've sent a PM. Everyone is right, 30 is very young and the chance of a great improvement at the Bethlem is within your grasp now. Your 31st could really be a birthday to celebrate. I really do hope so because you are one of the kindest people I've known and you so deserve happiness.

Love, Tricia x

A message for Mariss below: Get well soon, you a sorely missed.

Thu Jun 26 2008 13:14:27 #
Lucia
Member

Dear sad to be 30,
What a touching, heart breaking message. I know exactly how you feel, I was there, many years ago now. My recovery from OCD and depression started in my late 30s and I have been well for many years since then, wouldn't like to tell you how many!!
Remember always that OCD and depression are completely treatable and manageable for the vast majority of sufferers. It takes time to find the right ways forward though and these vary from person to person, so there's trial and error and trying different things and living in ways that help rather than hinder your illness. For me it was CBT with a really good therapist and and a single SSRI which I still take daily.
You'd be surprised the number of people both with and without OCD who agree that their lives have got better not worse as the decades passed. My 20s were hard, my 30s a bit better, my 40s great. I remember a stupid therapist once saying to me when I was 22 'These are the best years of your life (so buck up!)' - she was so, so wrong.
Keep fighting the illness and gettting the best help - you will learn to manage it, sooner or later.
All my lvery very best wishes for you
Lucia

Sun Jul 6 2008 21:31:05 #