OCD Action

Wings
Member

Well this morning I said to myself, today I'm going to be alright, but its funny how it doesnt seem to turn out that way, now im really worrying. Yesterday I thought I would be more confident and be a little bit like my normal cheeky self, So I decided to join an online conversation with my girlfreind and her freind, I thought I would be a little cheeky, not rude or anything like that, just have a giggle, about general life, she feels ive been taking the mickey, and looking back at the post I feel childish, and really stupid, I could kick myself, and now I think, maybe I shouldnt be more confident and the ocd is right, my girlfreind probly gives up now.

Thu Jan 12 2012 9:33:50 #
beth1982
Member

The horrible thing about OCD is that we can tie it in very easily with everyday life, Wings! Without your OCD, your girlfriend's reaction would not seem anywhere near as bad as you perceive it.......you may normally think she was overreacting to your cheekiness, or just reading your comments in the wrong way as so often happens online.......she may have been having a bad day, or feel a little insecure (happens often with women), but in reality, an unwanted reaction to light-hearted fun and cheekiness is just that! To allow yourself to doubt whether you should display confidence would be giving in to your fear, which seems easy but does a lot of damage long- term. My advice? Move on from this episode, feel the fear and carry on anyway! Put it behind you and enoy the rest of your day xxx

Thu Jan 12 2012 14:49:23 #
wannabefree
Member

Hi Wings, I agree with Beth on this... We try to read into things, when so often we can have little or no idea what the other person is really thinking, or will react in a given situation. I once went on a fairground ride with a confident person, only to find that they wanted to get off before me!!
Let's all try not to read things so deeply!
Wannabe

Thu Jan 12 2012 18:32:17 #
tizzkins
Member

I totally agree with Wannabefree i am so guilty of reading too much into a lot of situations even those that dont really matter. Although i cannot always see this at the time but later on when i am calm i often see the situation totally different just wish i could see the situation for what it is at the time it would make life so much easier. By the way Wings you could just try and talk to your girlfriend and explain to her how you meant the conversation to go i am sure that once you clear the air she will understand. Let us know how it goes.

Take care all
Liz xx

Fri Jan 13 2012 11:49:15 #
wannabefree
Member

Hi Liz, Hi Wings, How's it going today?
Wannabe

Fri Jan 13 2012 21:16:11 #