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swan
Member

Hi,
I am having really bad periods of ruminating when I cant stop thinking that certain people have a disticnt dislike for me. I have to keep away from these people so that I dont say anything I shouldnt to them. Also in the past they used to tell me thta htier was nothing wrong with me. Also Im back to work tomorrow after the weekend and I felt from Thursday that the weekend was over now its gone mid day and I definitely think the weekend is over. Have difficulty going out and feel that I am stuck to the seat by my tv.

Mon Mar 1 2010 12:17:31 #
Truddles
Member

Hi,

Sorry that your having problems and feeling low

Yes, it is demoralising when people are continually telling you that there is nothing wrong with you especially if they are supposed to be your friend. I was continually told that and so lost all confidence

We all like you and value the contributions you make to the forum.

As you're back to work tomorrow try and do something nice for yourself today. Try pampering yourself as you deserve a little pampering

You can always PM me if you're really low and I'll get back to you.

Take care

Trudy

Mon Mar 1 2010 12:36:39 #
DEAD!
Blocked

You should just ignore the people that say you're ok.

I'm still thinking of the same person, it's really annoying right

Mon Mar 1 2010 15:08:00 #
Cuthbert ffoliott
Moderator

Hiya Anne -

indeed: don't urge yourself to 'feel OK' just because others tell you you are. One of the first steps to get really better is to acknowledge your own feelings on any given moment. At the risk of sounding like a softie (perhaps I am!): denying one's feelings, and denying oneself to stay in close contact with them, is an ill-making type of thing. Everyone needs a true starting point to work his/her way up to better times.

Hang on in there! Things will surely improve, I only wish I could tell you when...

Ciao, Cuthbert.

Mon Mar 1 2010 16:11:39 #
freddy
Member

Hi Swan,

Sorry to read you are feeling low. I hope you feel better soon.

Good advice from Trudy - pamper yourself.
With regards,

Mon Mar 1 2010 20:09:49 #
Unregistered

Sorry to hear about how you're feeling. Just remember you are not alone, we're all here to support you, you can and will feel better.

Stay strong, Helen

Mon Mar 1 2010 21:19:11 #
Blueskies
Member

Hiya Swan,

I hope you feel better soon. It's a real shame that so many people do not understand the symptoms of anxiety and yet everyone wants to be accepted for who they are and no one wants to be judged! I would say, with that in mind, we are all the same!! so try not to worry too much about who dislikes you, there will be people who will dislike them for different reasons.

Pam

Mon Mar 1 2010 22:42:36 #
Cuthbert ffoliott
Moderator

Hi Pam -

wise words indeed. I often try to make clear to people that our anxieties are not in the right measure compared to what causes the anxieties. We (I) can feel worthless for days on end because I think I made a mistake, was wrong about something negligible. Well: negligible to others, monstrous to me, that is.

This is not exaggerating: we undergo fears and bad moods that are comparable to what others feel in life-threatening situations, like war, or disasters from natural causes (earthquakes, that kind of stuff). Or as if we're guilty of someone's death.

I try to explain this to everyone who's interested. It's a hard task, but worth the effort.

Tue Mar 2 2010 8:56:24 #
Unregistered

Don't try to convince yourself there's nothing wrong just because people say there's not. I did that for a while and it made everything 100 times worse!!!

Just get help if you can and try work through it but don't deny it.
I'm here for support if you need it and i'm sure everyone else will say the same thing!

x

Tue Mar 2 2010 14:38:20 #
Moocher
Member

When I was a teenager I was "treated" by a child psychologist who lived around the corner from me. Now, years later, I sometimes still bump into him along the street and he's really nasty, always making comments about me "traipsing along" and saying stuff like "have you been to university yet?"
Point is, you would expect somebody who was in his line of work to have some understanding of psychiatric conditions and how they can debilitate people. But apparently not. So you can imagine how out of touch other people are with what OCD means.
There are far too many people using the line "pull yourself together" for many psychiatric conditions. And the thing is, these people are ignorant and uninformed and would do well to keep their opinions to themselves. I'm quite sure they don't know how much harm they do, but the fact is that they do a lot of harm.

Tue Mar 2 2010 16:52:20 #
Blueskies
Member

Moocher, I agree some medical professions are truly out of touch with anxiety disorders. My doctor once accused me of being neurotic and he made me cry, said I was just like his sisters and mother would you believe. I told him to come off his high horse and have some respect for his patience!!!! I even saw a clinical psychologist who visted me with a doc at my home a few years ago, both would not accept I did not want meds. I tried to explain to them, that if someone suffers from intrusive thoughts and images that are disturbing, like me, then meds would be the worse thing for me, as some of the side affects are, nightmares, increase anxiety. I told them, without drugs, I experience those nightmares of intrusive images awake!!! They both just looked at each other and put me on a waiting list and went on their way. Obviously they did not research their stuff on meds for OCD Sufferers!!

Tue Mar 2 2010 21:39:46 #
Blueskies
Member

Cuthbert,

our fears can be compared to major life threatening disasters or illnessess experienced by others. When we feel so low, there is also I feel a sense of feeling overly responsible for what we do , even though the act or mistake might be minor. For many anxiety sufferes finding the balance or acceptable levels of stress is difficult. That 'all or nothing thinking' it's all good or it's all bad is what often plagues a sufferer into thinking in extreme measures that the worst is going to happen and in thinking so, feels the level of anxiety to match the belief.

So like you said, a minor mistake, is a big mistake, a panic attack is a heart attack, a lump in the throat is cancer and so it goes on and the fear experienced is as real as that Earthquake in Chille.

Pam

Tue Mar 2 2010 22:29:33 #
swan
Member

Hi,
Thankyou for everyonne's supportive replies. Since Tiuesday I have been at work and have been working late two pieces of work which I will be glad to get finished. Just wanted to explaine why I had not replied did not want to appear rude or have taken people for granted. Tuesday to Friday tends to be all work which does help with ocd. The weekend is hardest for me. Anyway I have an appoitment with my psychiatrist today for what happens next.
Teresa

Thu Mar 4 2010 8:25:26 #
Blueskies
Member

Hiya there Teresa,

Just droping by to wish you well and hope your appointment goes well.

Pam

Thu Mar 4 2010 8:50:33 #
swan
Member

Hi,
Yes appoitment went well, i have to change social worker as their are now three different teams in my area. There is hopefully going to be a month change over. Have to wait and see

Thu Mar 4 2010 16:42:06 #
Rena32
Member

Hi Swan, I understand how you feel because I have those feeling to. I know it is just OCD paranoia, but sometimes I have a hard time getting past them. I hope that you feel better very soon.

Fri Mar 5 2010 2:26:26 #