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Coco
Member

Hi Guys
How is everyone doing?
Twitchy- I know how you feel about watching your husband have my panic attack.
We are not the only ones that suffer- our parents and loved ones are in so much pain when they see us suffer and have different ways of reacting.
My sister finds it so hard to see me and for awhile i had this attitude "so what, i'm going through worse pain than she is". But then i put myself in her place and also my parents and realised that i would feel the same way if they suffered from OCD or another mental illness.
Seeing them in pain actually motivates me to get better. I now tell them if i've had a good day. Before I didn't do this and kept my feelings to myself. Or if my sister has a chat to me and makes me feel better, I tell her.
Part of my recovery goal is to get better for the sake of my loved ones. I know I should do it for myself but it's hard seeing them in so much pain.
Hang in there twitchy- like me, if you've had a good day, tell your husband- it will honestly make him feel better and realise that you have both your good and bad days. Having good days gives them hope that it is possible to get better. Hope this helps.

Once again, i would like to thank everyone from the bottom of my heart for replying to my posts and sharing your feelings. Coming to this forum has been one of the best things that has happened to me this year:))

Had my second session of CBT= Today I'm going to my friend's son's 10th party at an ice skating place. Should be good. My thoughts are still very much with me, but I have to make the effort to go out and not let OCD prevent me from doing the things I enjoy.

Please let me know how you all are doing?

ps- have yous started your christmas shopping?

lots of love- coco

Fri Dec 16 2011 23:06:47 #
Unregistered

Hi Coco,

what I can see from your post is that you are a caring, thoughtful person, who is concerned about the people around you, even though you are suffering from a debilitating illness.

I see this so many times in posts on this forum. OCD sufferers very often view themselves as monsters / strange / different / not as good as other people. But time and time again, you'll read their posts on the forums and it's blindingly obvious as you read other people's posts that these are caring, compassionate, kind people, who spend a lot of time worrying about causing any kind of harm to other people.

All the things you're doing are briiliant. Going out, joining in, being part of the world around you. All of these things will speed up your own recovery, and as the people around you see you getting better, their own moods will lift too.

One of the things that people often say on the forum is that it's important to be able to "forgive yourself". I think this is a very important part of the recovery process.

Learning to forgive yourself...for all the things you've done...all the things you DIDN'T do...and all the things that you could have done differently.

What you'll probably realize during your recovery is that there's actually nothing to forgive yourself for. Because OCD is an illness, and a patient doesn't need to be forgiven for having an illness -- because there's nothing to forgive.

And, no, I haven't really started my Xmas shopping yet!!!

Sat Dec 17 2011 11:58:33 #
slogsweep
Member

Coco I'm no expert, I'm only 21, but I'd imagine that if there is such thing as a blueprint for combating our version of OCD and any comorbid illnesses that come along with it, the way you're bravely tackling it should be it. I really admire your courage reading this thread and can't thank you enough for making me feel a little less alone.

Best wishes & happy christmas

Slog

Sat Dec 17 2011 12:36:56 #
slogsweep
Member

Coco I'm no expert, I'm only 21, but I'd imagine that if there is such thing as a blueprint for combating our version of OCD and any comorbid illnesses that come along with it, the way you're bravely tackling it should be it. I really admire your courage reading this thread and can't thank you enough for making me feel a little less alone.

Best wishes & happy christmas

Slog

Sat Dec 17 2011 12:38:30 #
Coco
Member

Hi Slog and Londoner
Thanks for your kind words.
I'm 31 and have been battling this demon for 10 years!! I can still remember the day i was diagnosed and the thoughts i used to get.
I am originally from Fiji and am Indian. In my society, mental illness is a taboo subject and some view such illnesses as a sign of weakness. The attitude is "get over it". It took a very very long time for my parents and sister to come to terms with me having depression and ocd and I used to resent them alot back then. Now they are fantastic and understand my condition. It took them a wee while but they eventually got there.

I've started my christmas shopping and will be doing some baking today. The weather here isn't too great. It's supposed to be summer but we've had rain for the past few days. I just hope we have a nice sunny Christmas day.

I so wish we were all living in the same country but at least we can chat through this forum.

How are yous doing?

Sat Dec 17 2011 20:51:26 #
wannabefree
Member

Hi Coco, I'm not doing too bad at the mo, done a few advances today... I used to go ice-skating a lot, it is great fun... The ice is clean enough, so will your shoes and skates be... Have a lot of fun, Coco, and have a fabulous Christmas over there in New Zealand... I bet your Christmas will be warmer than we are, it is positively freezing here in England!
wannabe

Sat Dec 17 2011 21:58:07 #
slogsweep
Member

Hello Coco glad you're keeping busy. It seems so weird to me having a scorching Christmas day (or any day for that matter!). I've had a tough one to be honest, lots of thinking and checking. Gone home for the Christmas break from uni today. All back and calmish now thanks.

Well done Wannabe, I saw your post in the achievements section. Hope your progress continues tomorrow .

All the best, both of you,

Slog

Sat Dec 17 2011 22:23:33 #
wannabefree
Member

Hi Slog, thanks ever so much, I'm chuffed to have done it... I hope to repeat the experience again soon... Have a good break from uni, may next year be good for us all... Have a great Christmas from me too...
wannabe

Sat Dec 17 2011 22:31:45 #
slogsweep
Member

I'm chuffed for you, nothing more uplifting than seeing someone who was having a hard time, who's taken a great deal of their time to help me doing alright again. Most uplifting thing I've read on here today.

Have a great Christmas, as OCD free as possible .

Slog

Sat Dec 17 2011 22:35:08 #
Unregistered

Hi Coco,

I hope you're doing well this week.

I have started another thread which might be of interest to you, and any other forum members who live outside the UK. Here's the link for that thread:

http://www.ocdaction.org.uk/forums/topic/links-for-ocd-sufferers-around-the-world-including-coco

It talks about the "Links" section on the OCD Action website, which has links to various OCD websites and groups around the world, including at least one in New Zealand.

Have a brilliant Christmas!

Fri Dec 23 2011 12:51:05 #
wannabefree
Member

Hi Coco, just have to ask... How are you getting on with the earthquakes in your country? I hope you're okay...
wannabe

Fri Dec 23 2011 21:44:33 #