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Moocher
Member

My dad is having a severe episode tonight. I tried to close the kitchen door on him and told him to go in the kitchen to calm down but he came out of the door while I was closing it so I shut him in the door in my eagerness to close it. Then he threw his cup and started to punch me in the arm. I really don't know how to deal with these episodes and I really don't know who to contact. I can't really get any help for him because he won't admit he has OCD. These episodes just come completely out of the blue and I really don't know what to do.

Fri Jun 4 2010 17:37:00 #
Truddles
Member

Hi Moocher,

Sorry to hear that you're having a bad time with your dad tonight. I hope that you're alright and haven't been physically hurt.

It's a difficult situation trying to deal with someone that you love when they wont admit that they have a problem. Has your dad actually been diagnosed with OCD? Are these outbursts actually OCD or something else?

Personally if I were you I would go to see my own GP to ask their advice as they should know what services and help are available locally. Remember your health is important and must take priority. This is obviously having a serious impact on your life.

Best wishes
Trudy

Fri Jun 4 2010 18:05:16 #
Moocher
Member

Thank you for your advice Truddles. He's bruised my arm so now that's going to be embarrassing walking along the street with a bruised arm.
He hasn't been officially diagnosed with OCD but I recognise it because I have mild OCD myself. He does the classic checking compulsions and thinks up scenarios that just couldn't happen.
My GP often isn't a lot of help with things. I was thinking of phoning the Samaritans and asking them for some advice.

Fri Jun 4 2010 18:12:06 #
Moocher
Member

I did phone the Samaritans and they said pretty much what you said, that I should see the GP. I don't know how much help the GP will be though because he obviously can't give him help if he won't admit that there's a problem.

Fri Jun 4 2010 18:51:34 #
Truddles
Member

I don't know how much help the GP will be though because he obviously can't give him help if he won't admit that there's a problem.

I actually meant for you to see your GP for support for you to help you deal with what is a difficult situation. He should also be able to point you in the right direction for help.

Of course if the violent behaviour gets worse you might have no alternative other than to call the police as a last resort if you need assistance.

Fri Jun 4 2010 21:15:42 #
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I hate to say it, but if I'm reading you correctly, he's physically assaulted you, which is not exactly a nice thing to do, particularly to ones daughter. I would have him sectioned under the mental health act, mainly because he's demonstrated violent tendencies and is obviously in need of medication. I've totally mis-understood your posting, so I apologise if I have, but I certainly wouldn't even let anyone hit me, no matter how justified it seems to them

Fri Jun 4 2010 23:04:56 #
Moocher
Member

I suggested to my brother that we should tell our doctor about my dad but my brother reckons that he would just laugh and say,"Nothing to do with me." I don't know if he would do that or not but it's an off-putting thought.
My dad has always been violent since I was a child but I hate the thought of having him arrested or sectioned. That would really be a last resort. Like the Samaritans said, if he's an adult and he doesn't want to get help, then you can't force him to get help.
He was saying yesterday that he was going to get me sectioned. For years he's always threatened me with sectioning (he always says he's not crazy, it's me) and if someone is your father I wonder if people would listen to him, more than me.

Sat Jun 5 2010 17:58:27 #
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Moocher, Do you and your brother live at home with your dad?

You can’t force your dad to receive help, but if you are at risk then something needs to be done. Has any of the violence been written on your medical records?

I had a friend with OCD who was violent towards his wife, I am sure you would be believed and wouldn’t your brother confirm that there has been violence?

It’s fine for a person to refuse help and live with their OCD, but if the stress is leading to his violent outbursts then he should be prepared to do all he can to get help and protect you.

Whatever age you are, I think you would be believed. Your dad can’t use the fact that he believes you have a problem to condone his violence. Please don’t allow this to continue. Your doctor will almost certainly take this seriously, if he doesn‘t you should see another. Perhaps he would visit your dad at home and try to persuade him to accept treatment. Your dad is probably frightened, but his behaviour is unacceptable.

Mon Jun 7 2010 12:40:17 #
swan
Member

Hi,
Did you make a decision as to what to do, you are in a domestiv violence situation and therefore need help for yourself and brother. You will be believed.
we all believ you here so others will believe you too.
Teresa

Sun Jun 13 2010 8:53:22 #