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    DEAD!
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    I think I'm obsessed with someone - well I think about her a lot.
    Mostly every day - she really p***ed me off

    It's driving me crazy though

    Thu Feb 25 2010 14:34:43 #
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    DEAD!
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    Probably talk about it with my psychologist - she'll understand.

    Thu Feb 25 2010 15:26:59 #
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    DEAD!
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    Now I've worked it out - they totally screwed me, they know about my OCD.
    No wonder I've been thinking about her so much

    Thu Feb 25 2010 17:02:11 #
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    aishah
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    Hi Nicola, Is the person you are obsessed with someone you have contact with normally or someone else?

    Bridget

    Thu Feb 25 2010 17:55:13 #
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    DEAD!
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    No, I've seen her 3 times and not for weeks and I won't again.
    I keep thinking of her though - I don't mean like I'm in love her lol, but just thinking.

    She was even in my dream - it was the social worker.

    Thu Feb 25 2010 18:04:43 #
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    DEAD!
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    I think it's because I want an apology - only thing I can think of.

    Fri Feb 26 2010 12:58:39 #
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    brennie
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    Niccola i think its best if you try and forget an apology because sometimes we cant always get what we desire, best if you forget it hun ! especially if you are not going to see this person again.

    love brennie x

    Fri Feb 26 2010 14:28:52 #
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    swan
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    Hi,
    I have people that i have obssesed with who have hurt me too through their ignorance and whilst i agree that it is better to forget the aplogy you just dont know how much it would mean to me.
    Teresa

    Fri Feb 26 2010 17:00:00 #
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    mama
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    It is a careful and difficult art to learn how to forgive when no forgiveness was sought...but it is better still for us to learn how despite the pain and hurt. I've decided that we dont really know what the other person is dealing with...maybe their dog just died...maybe their sister is ill, maybe life is overwhelming them???Maybe they are just plain rotten. Regardless of WHY they are mean, its never about the person they are mean to. . .its inevitably about the person who is mean and what life is handing them at the moment that makes them choose meaness. Love and hugs.
    Andrea

    Fri Feb 26 2010 17:15:51 #
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    Truddles
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    Although of course an apology form others is desirable, in reality it often isn't given If no apology is forthcoming from the other person then it is their problem and not yours Bad manners are difficult to deal with at the best of times, but all we can do is ensure that we show other people the courtesy that we would like shown to us. All to often with OCD we take on other peoples problems when in reality we have enough of our own to deal with. So forget about the apology as chances are you'll never get one.

    Have a nice weekend Nicola.

    Trudy

    Fri Feb 26 2010 17:30:30 #
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    DEAD!
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    My psychologist said I need to forget about it and just accept the thoughts or distract myself from them.
    Even if I phone she won't think she has done anything wrong - but I need to.

    Fri Feb 26 2010 17:39:36 #
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    DEAD!
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    I try not to care, but I do.

    I know there's basically zero chance of getting an apology, but I don't see why I should get screwed for no reason.

    Fri Feb 26 2010 17:51:21 #
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    DEAD!
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    It's not working yet and I don't want it to turn into something else.
    I'm thinking about her way too much.

    Sat Feb 27 2010 11:33:57 #
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    Truddles
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    In this instance your psychologist is correct - the more you write about it Nicola the more you are reinforcing the idea. Remember it's their problem not yours.

    On a lighter note doing anything exciting this weekend or are you staying in?

    Sat Feb 27 2010 13:16:43 #
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    DEAD!
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    My psychologist is always right.
    I'm trying to just accept it, but I'm getting pissed so it isn't working - well I'm not doing it right.

    Yeah it's just I deserve an apology and I think if I phoned it might help that I asked at least, she was really harsh.

    Nothing, just staying in, probs watch some movies and think of her - feel like a stalker lol

    Sat Feb 27 2010 14:55:47 #
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    DEAD!
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    I'll have this sorted soon, just a few days longer

    Thu Mar 4 2010 12:09:15 #
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    brennie
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    You know the answer Niccola....Only YOU can do it! you have got completely obsessed over something you cannot do anything about so why not just forget it, its only causing you more pain where unecessary.

    Love Brennie x

    Thu Mar 4 2010 14:18:35 #
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    DEAD!
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    Yeah - well I tried distracting myself and I tried accepting it and it works for little while, but not long enough.

    I will have it sorted soon though, be next week

    Thu Mar 4 2010 14:46:26 #
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    brennie
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    Good luck with it Niccola

    Brennie x

    Thu Mar 4 2010 14:52:47 #
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    DEAD!
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    Thanks

    Thu Mar 4 2010 15:24:25 #
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    swan
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    Nicola,
    I have thoughts about being obsessed with people, and i know how difficult it is. I cant give you an answer only to say you are not alone and the obessessions are just as strong as contamination fears or other ocd fears. No ocd fear is any easier to deal with.
    Take care
    Teresa

    Fri Mar 5 2010 7:22:50 #
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    DEAD!
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    Thanks
    Yeah you're right there isn't any 1 easier than another - it just sucks though.

    I tried to phone and she was away, but next week I will again and hopefully it will stop or at least I'll think of her less.

    Nicola

    Fri Mar 5 2010 16:47:04 #
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    Wombat140
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    Hope it helps, Nicola. Not ringing her doesn't seem to have done much good, so no harm in trying. I wouldn't mention to her that you haven't been able to stop thinking about it, though - otherwise she's liable to write the whole thing off as OCD lunacy, if she's that type. Keep your cool.
    Best of luck
    Wombat140

    Sat Mar 6 2010 22:32:22 #

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