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My BDSM ex girlfriend- intrusive thoughts and OCD update

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  • Started 1 year ago by forthaven
  • Latest reply from Tess
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  1. for those of you who didnt see my other post:

    http://www.ocdaction.org.uk/forums/topic/ex-girlfirend-with-bdsm-fetish-has-brought-me-to-destruction

    I have been getting used to my new medication regime (40mg per day prozac). i seem to have responded to this quite well, my anxiety level has dropped considerably but the intrusive thoughts are still there. currently i am on the waiting list for CBT but this can take weeks to come through. in the meantime, i have at least tried several tricks with the sexual imagery that plagues my mind, i.e. trying to think of it as comical- it sometimes works and sometimes does not (particularly not at 4am!)

    I have severed all contact with this horrible woman, and changed all my numbers. she showed her true colours recently, on april 1st got a collegue of hers to phone me pretending to be from a VD clinic and saying that my ex-partner had tested positive for syphilis. she knows i am having mental problems, this was a cruel and heartless thing to do, although i did twig it was a prank after about 10 minutes. my mates said to me, this says more about her than you, that you would believe it because of the sexual lifestyle that she leads. this did make my panic attacks worse for a while, but i am now back at work and managing to hold it together for the most part. i dont like to rely on medication, but in my case it has really helped.

    its hard to say if this is genuine OCD related, although the compulsions (to look at what she has posted online) and the intrusive thoughts are a dead giveaway. however, i am waiting for a proper diagnosis before i jump to that conclusion. some people have accused me of being self-obsessed, i am not but the thoughts i expereince mean that sometimes its all i can talk about- has anyone else had this happen?

    thanks a million for the support!

    J

    Sun Apr 17 2011 11:51:24 #
  2. Hi forthaven
    Thanks for letting us know how you're getting on. I think you've done really well to come this far because you were in a state when you first posted - and that trick on April 1st was the pits, comaparble to kicking the stick away from a blind person, you are well rid of that particular female. Not only that if she thinks that kind of prank is funny then she must be a very sad and insecure person which is perhaps why she behaves as she does.
    You are right not to jump to conclusions about whether or not you have OCD. Everyone has thoughts and engages in OCD type behaviour to some extent and the professionals seem to take the view that it's only OCD if it is severely affecting the quality of your life. As for being self obsessed I think if we are honest this is something that all OCD sufferers could be criticised for - and a lot of people in society without OCD too. If your thoughts are focussing on the same thing all the time of course you will need to talk about it to try to get it out of your system and a good friend will understand this and try to support you. Ignore the people who criticise you, they are not doing you any favours by taking that attitude.

    Sun Apr 17 2011 17:17:16 #
  3. hi im struggling with intrusive thoughts but of the morbid kind.when i first experienced them a year ago,it was ruining my life and i didnt know what to do or who to turn to.it has got to be the worst most horrible thing ive had to deal with.ive been taking prozac for 7 years nearly for depression but it was only till i uped my dose to 80mg a day that the thoughts stopped,although this dose of prozac is not supported or recommended by my doctor and as you would probably already know it can take weeks for a higher dose to take effect.i cant say that this is purely the reason the thoughts stopped theres no gaurantee of that but for me it seems to do the trick.i also must stress.....never ever ever just stop taking your tablets,i have done this and learnt the hard way.you seriously come down with a big bang.

    hope you continue to feel better

    Thu Aug 18 2011 19:59:59 #
  4. Hi Josophie
    Very, very wise words. It is so easy to feel so much better that you think you can manage without your meds. Coming off meds has to be done very slowly and gradually and with full medical support. Some people can come off successfully, others go down with a massive thump and then it is a long slow and painful climb to get back up again.

    Fri Aug 19 2011 8:53:58 #

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