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    Please, those of you who join me in prayer at 7.00PM, and anyone else who could spare a few moments, will you please pray for the family and friends of a wonderful young man named John Kelly. He was an exceptional human being, who, despite his severe problems, helped a very dear friend of mine through one of the worst experiences of her life, while they were both inpatients at a clinic. He was a ray of sunshine, trying to cheer everyone up. He believed in helping others and hiding the true depth of his own pain. He encouraged others to face their fears, as he himself was doing, determined to beat the OCD.

    A shocking report appeared in a newspaper over the weekend. Obviously John's parents, family and friends are devastated. I really do believe in the collective power of prayer. So please, please can those of you who also believe join me at 7.00PM.

    A heart-rending section from the report:

    "When John Kelly dropped his father off at a local store Monday morning, he said he was heading to the gym for a long workout.

    Instead, the young man drove down a dirt path, parked his father's Jeep Liberty and opened a jug containing a lethal chemical concoction. His father said it was the second time in four months that his son, who suffered from severe obsessive-compulsive disorder, tried to kill himself.

    This time, he succeeded...

    Dr Stephen Kelly, who left his practice in December to spend more time with John after he overdosed on pills, had been trying to find his son all afternoon...

    John’s father, who then went to the Irvington police station to file a missing person's report, cried as he recalled what happened next.

    "As I was standing there," he said, "it came over the police radio that my son was dead."

    He called the suicide his son's way of escaping his debilitating mental disorder.

    Mon Apr 4 2011 12:50:32 #
  2. Dear Trish,

    I am very sorry to read your post and to hear of your loss. I am not religious but will think of you and your friend and his family at 7pm tonight.

    Best wishes

    David

    Mon Apr 4 2011 13:17:47 #
  3. Dear Trish,

    I have just read your post, even though I am not religious I will be thinking of John and his family tonight, I just wish people would understand that OCD is a horrible horrible illness and more money should be used to help all sufferers, as without help and support the world can seem like a very dark place, I myself have alot of support but there is many out there that dont.
    My thoughts are with you at this very sad time

    Karen

    Mon Apr 4 2011 13:50:26 #
  4. Dear Tricia
    I am so sorry to hear about this tragedy and I will be thinking of John's family. I don't know if you have any contact with them but if you do please mention The Compassionate Friends http://www.tcf.org.uk which is an organisation for bereaved parents. I was recommended to this organistion following my own son's suicide. I found them extremely supportive and helpful and their solicitor Sefton Kwasnik was an amazing source of strength in guiding me through the inquest process. Even now, over three years on, he still phones me from time to time for a chat just to see how I am, at his own cost and in his own free time, because he is a fully practicing solicitor as well as his voluntary role.

    Mon Apr 4 2011 17:27:01 #
  5. This is so sad.....x

    Mon Apr 4 2011 18:08:45 #
  6. Oh Tricia I am so sorry. It just goes to show that this so called nasty bully, OCD, at times just grips us in a way we feel there is no hope left.
    I agree that there should be more help and support out there for all of us suffering this condition. I am not saying all, but there are some that just don't understand fully how this illness quite affects some of us and how disabling it can be.

    My thoughts are with you and his family.
    k xxx.

    Mon Apr 4 2011 21:47:44 #
  7. Dear Tricia.
    I'm so sorry to hear this.
    How tragic.
    I missed the prayer thing at 7pm but just to let you know I'm sending prayers now, for John, his dad and you.
    I fear for my own son tbh. He loves his life and wants to protect it, yet his fears are taking yrs off him.
    Much love and peace to you
    Love Jenny
    xxx

    Tue Apr 5 2011 3:44:28 #
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    Thank you all so much for your thoughts, prayers and kind messages. Tess, thank you for the link.

    I feel a fraud, because I realize some people feel John was my friend. One of my closest friends knew him very well and I feel I got to know him through her. From all that I have heard, in the last few months, I bitterly regret not knowing him. He really was a very special human being. Damn this wretched condition...

    For anyone with a few moments to spare, please continue to join me when you can at 7.00PM. If anyone wants their name added to the prayer list, please send me a PM.

    Thank you again. Your response means so much.

    Tue Apr 5 2011 13:26:06 #
  9. That must be horrible for his family. He really couldn't take the pressure anymore. I'll do a silent prayer tonight

    Tue Apr 5 2011 14:13:48 #
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    Thank you, Giles.

    Tue Apr 5 2011 14:27:25 #
  11. I did one tonight, although it was 28 minutes later than it should have been

    Tue Apr 5 2011 23:10:10 #
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    Thank you, Giles.

    John had studied psychology. He wrote the following:

    "My success in the subject has motivated me to translate the personal pain I have experienced with obsessive compulsive disorder into a desire to pursue a profession where I can provide relief and therapeutic help for others who have suffered from mental illness."

    He said of himself:

    "What do you want to be remembered for? The man who gave into OCD? The guy who fought back, overcame and made a difference? The choice is yours."
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    Sadly, 'the choice' isn't that simple.

    John’s father is determined to do all he can to raise awareness of this wretched condition of ours.

    I don’t think it will be long before most will have heard of John Kelly. He will not have died in vain.

    Thank you to all for your thoughts and prayers. Please continue to join me whenever you can at 7.00PM, not just for John's family, but for yourselves and your loved ones.

    Love to you all, Tricia.

    Sun Apr 10 2011 13:04:53 #
  13. Dearest Tricia, i always join you at 7pm...you are one remarkable woman to say the least. You are always giving your time to others whilst suffering severlely yourself.
    Take care Brennie x

    Sun Apr 10 2011 14:55:25 #

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