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Truddles
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What really annoys you? It doesn't even have to be OCD related.
You can let off steam here.

It really annoys me when -

- People put children in the main part of supermarket trolleys. It's a disgusting habit.
- People break promises with no apology or explanation.
- People tell me that I must have misunderstood when I know full well that I haven't.
- We receive poor quality CBT.
- People misquote others.
- Packaging is such that you either can’t get into or that comes undone prior to purchase.
- Packaging etc is damaged because it's been badly handled in the supermarket.
- The bus driver refuses to stop even though you've rung the bell well in advance.
- People treating the street as if it were one big litter bin.
- People who can't follow simple exit directions or keep to the left (or keep to the right) signs on the underground.

Sat Aug 20 2011 11:42:16 #
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- People who dont clear up after their dogs.
- Children in supermarket trolleys.
- Adverts in tv programms/films.
- People talking at you instead of to you.
- Tidying up only to be a complete mess again within 5 mins.

Wed Aug 24 2011 16:40:25 #
Truddles
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- There are massive puddles in the road at bus stops so that you get soaked as traffic goes by.
- They make bus shelters that are pleasing to the eye but do nothing to protect you from the elements (got soaked waiting at the bus stop yesterday in the torrential rain )
- People use umbrellas without any consideration to others. (Spent yesterday avoiding being poked in the eye )
- Once you've got on the bus they then two stops later change the final destination and tell you all to get off the bus.

Sat Aug 27 2011 13:42:22 #
Tess
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People who walk into the supermarket and then stop just inside blocking the entrance.
People who stand in the middle of the supermarket aisle choosing their purchases oblivious to the fact that you are trying to get a trolley past them.
People who grab all the best items in the markdown section and hand them to the assistant with the markdown gun for a second reduction before anyone else gets a chance.
People who remove all the mushroom stalks and just take the tops and people who break all the florets off the brocolli and leave the stalks behind.
Children whizzing round the aisles on wheelies.
And finally - the lady who on Christmas Eve just as I was about to take one of the last loaves off the supermarket shelf managed to sweep the whole lot into her trolley and walk off.

Sat Aug 27 2011 17:51:20 #
Truddles
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- At Christmas my local supermarket has hot cross buns but no mince pies.
- Parents allow children to use the supermarket as a playground and the items on the shelves as toys.
- I have to call a call centre for help and can't understand the person answering the call.
- Buying clothes that the sizes vary so much. Why can't they standardize them? I've got clothes in four different sizes and all fit me
- I'm told one thing at my hospital appointment and then they write something totally different in the clinic letter.

Sun Aug 28 2011 12:17:09 #
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Haha, sorry Truddles, i've just realised i'm one of the things that annoys you! I allow my little one to use some of the items in supermarkets for entertainment! Before I was a Mum I just couldn't understand some of the things parents did (to the point where I just thought control your children for goodness sake!) but honestly nowadays I get it 100%, I just want to get around the supermarket as soon as possible and as quietly and stress-free as possible!!

Tue Aug 30 2011 16:25:06 #
Truddles
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Sorry but I find this no laughing matter - we all want a stress free experience at the supermarket and I find having to waste the extremely limited time that I am allowed for shopping sifting through all the food packets etc to find ones not damaged by children playing with them makes for an extremely stressful time. Neither do I find it funny having to continually step over them whilst they're playing on the floor, or continually having to avoid them whilst they career around in a hyperactive state, (I have a nasty bruise and swollen toe from an incident this evening caused by a child racing around with a trolley) it's a shop and not a crèche. When I have had to take children shopping I have never allowed them to make themselves a nuisance, I kept them under control out of consideration to others.

Tue Aug 30 2011 18:19:20 #
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Apologies Truddles, I was trying to make light of the situation which obviously wasn't appropriate, i'm sorry for upsetting you, I tend to try to be lighthearded about things and assumed your post to be more lighthearted than I now realise it actually was.

I didn't say I allow my child to make a nusiance of themselves, quite the opposite, I am proud to say that I have a very well behaved child and I do not even allow wandering around (trolley seat only). I simply meant that I allow items to be held, never damaged in any way, I can't say that I have ever even come across that myself, I had no idea that people did that, I would have assumed that surely they would pay for a damaged item??

Anyway, once again, apologies, I geniunely did not realise that this would cause so much upset.

Tue Aug 30 2011 18:33:19 #
Truddles
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I apologise too It's been a bad week and having to deal with all the badly behaved kids and getting injured hasn't done anything to improve my already black mood.
What you describe is perfectly acceptable as I suspect from what you say that they are your items that they are playing with whilst sat in the trolley. In fact it's nice to see a child sat quietly in a trolley exploring something that mum has given them from her trolley.
I live in an area where bad behaviour in the supermarket isn't uncommon and no they don't offer to pay for the damaged items, we all end up paying as the supermarkets attempt to recoup their losses.
Walking round the supermarket today, there were tossed on various shelves an empty chocolate wrapper, an empty coke bottle and two other empty bottles of soft drinks and an empty packet of crisps. All before the tills so none paid for

Tue Aug 30 2011 18:45:05 #
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Well as I said, apologies, I really shouldn't have made a joke of it, in hindsight that was really very thoughtless of me. I really had no idea that supermarkets could be quite that bad! I would struggle with empty wrappers etc myself so I understand completely. I think I forget sometimes how lucky I am to live in the country!

Tue Aug 30 2011 19:12:54 #
Tess
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Hi Strowdy
I live in the country too and I'm with Trudy on this one. Parents seem oblivious to what their chidren are up to or just accept their behaviour as normal despte the fact that it is upsetting other shoppers. I too find half eaten chocolate bars and part consumed drinks on the shelves. I dislike the practice of allowing children to run around eating and drinking in the supermarket or even whilst sitting in the trolley when the items have not been paid for. I don't like the thought of their sticky fingers on things I may need to buy and I doubt that the checkout assistants enjoy having to scan empty or partly consumed items. It stresses me out when children have sword fights with bread batons or poke every single item of wrapped meat just becaue it feels squidgy and even with their parents watching. Like Trudy I don't have a problem with small children holding and looking at items which are intended to be purchased but I have some misgivings because it may give a small child the impression that the item belongs to them before it goes through the tills. But it's not only children who cause stress in supermarkets - the people who go to the toilet, don't wash their hands and then handle things on the shelves bug me as do the ones who consider it their right to break grapes off the bunches and eat them. It upsets me when I see chilled items discarded on ordinary shelves because they then have to be thrown away which not only ends up costing us all extra money but creates unnecessary waste.

Wed Aug 31 2011 9:29:34 #
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Ok, as I said, I apologise, I was making light of the situation and obviously I won't be doing that again!

Wed Aug 31 2011 10:24:22 #
chatterfairy
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Hi everyone

Just noticed this thread. I agree that sometimes shopping in a supermarket can be very stressful...I have got into the (bad) habit of always taking items from the back of the shelf to avoid all the things that have been written above. However, I just wanted to say that I think the best way we all deal with this is to accept it is life and we can't control everything!!

People don't wash their hands coming out the toilet in lots of places and then touch things but we are all still living!Please do believe me that I do not make this sentence in jest...these people are the bane of my OCD and I sometimes want to go up to them and tell them to WASH THEIR HANDS! But it is life and we have to realise most people don't let things like that bother them. And let's face it, even if it did we can't do anything.

I also don't want Strowdy to feel bad as sometimes laughing at a situation makes it more bearable as opposed to focusing on the bad points. At least in my opinion it does.

Wed Aug 31 2011 12:48:04 #
Allison
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I spend ages checking that the trolley I get is clean because of people allowing their children to sit in them. I also get annoyed when old people put their walking sticks in the shopping trolley as I worry what is on the end of their stick. I get annoyed when people don't seem to be aware that they are not the only ones in the shop and not watch what they are doing and nearly knock you with their trolley. God I hate going food shopping these days!

Wed Aug 31 2011 13:59:57 #
David
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I agree with Allison about going food shopping: I hate it. Battles over the discounted food, people putting tomatoes to their noses to smell them, children riding scooters around and around the checkouts. I have also been rammed by trollies - mostly by accident but once in a Marks and Spencer food hall I got repeatedly rammed by a trolley when I paying at the till. By reaction I pushed back and the young woman pusher said 'Your going to have a heart attack old man', looked gleeful and put all her weight against the trolley. With that I left without buying anything and spent the night hungry nursing my bruises

Wed Aug 31 2011 15:07:57 #
Allison
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People have no respect for others these days. It's so annoying !!!

Wed Aug 31 2011 21:49:26 #
Tess
Member

Reminds me of the last time I ever shopped in an M&S food hall on Christmas Eve. It was in Exeter and the store opened at 8.30am and I arrived in good time to find there was already a queue. When the doors opened there was a stampede and I picked up a basket, joined the throng and found myself wedged like a sardine with no hope of getting near a shelf whilst those fortunate enough to be within striking distance systematically stripped the shelves of everything on my list. People started putting their baskets on their heads to make more room but that left more space for others to arrive so we ended up like sardines with baskets on our heads.

Thu Sep 1 2011 9:30:48 #
Truddles
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- When health professionals don't listen to us or tell us it's only OCD.
- When we can't access the treatment that we're entitled to.
- When health professionals talk down to us.

Thu Sep 1 2011 12:00:03 #
Truddles
Member

Sorry to post again
- When the hospital changes your appointment a month before you're due to see the Consultant and as a result you then get told that you'll have to go to the back of the queue and can only be seen four months after the date of the appointment they've just cancelled. This is the third time this year and have managed to sort the other appts out. But it's not funny when you have to have three monthly treatment that only the hospital is able to give. When I was at school three months was three months not seven months or has maths changed since then?

Mon Sep 5 2011 15:34:56 #
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-When i go shopping i see lots of things i want to buy but havent got the money, but then on another occasion when i have got some money i dont see anything i like.
-Rain, when its supposed to summer and nice and hot.
-Being ignored.
-Answering the phone only to find its an automated message.
-When the computer wont do what you want it to do.

Mon Sep 5 2011 17:39:30 #
chloe
Member

When you have been registered with a GP within a medical centre and in 8 years have yet to have an appointment with them, then having to repeat youself everytime you you see a different GP. Whats the point.

Mon Sep 5 2011 18:06:58 #
David
Member

To be told by my GP health centre that I had been 'deducted' from their list by the Health Authority. Spending a moring ringing the Health Authority but nobody asking the switchboard. (My present Health Authority is a 'transitional' body consisting of three amalgamated Health Authorities waiting for the 'final reorganisation' pending the legislation going through Parliament.) Contacted the manager of the health centre in the afternoon who told me to go down to the health centre and reregister. The manager said that she was dealing with many problems with the transitional Health Authorities as they appeared either no idea what they were doing or did nothing. What chaos!

Mon Sep 5 2011 18:40:49 #
Truddles
Member

- I ring to make an appointment to see my GP only to be told that they now only work one morning a week. Note to self - Must remember I can now only be ill one morning a week

Mon Sep 5 2011 19:24:47 #
David
Member

....when I experience unhelpful oficials either in person or on the phone who appear to delight in being unhelpful especially when they are faced with non standard tasks regarding dealing with power of attorney issues. The hours spent on 'helplines' and branches of banks and in post officews being told that the 'computer says' you cannot do this and having to explain to them that I can and that the information that they are viewing is inaccurate and they need to contact the 'back office'. Having to spend time going up the rungs of the hierarchy until a manager agrees that the information the first official gave me was incorrect. Do I get annoyed because I have OCD and expect at least some semblance of service and accuracy or is this perfectionalim gone mad? I desperately care that things are right and correct and feel very irresponsible if they are not. Perhaps my expectations of others is too great?

Tue Sep 13 2011 15:45:31 #
Truddles
Member

Hi David,

I did reply to this the other day but didn't realise that my post hadn't posted

I don't think that your expectations are too great. Very few people seem to take a pride in their work any more and are there more for the pay at the end of the month than for the job itself. These days so many find it too much effort to deal appropriately with either their customers, clients or patients. No longer is the customer always right in fact the customer is all too frequently viewed as a major inconvenience. Even with all the technology at their disposal too many still can't be bothered to search for and then give the correct information and it doesn't seem to occur to them that it makes them look complete idiots.

Sat Sep 17 2011 13:58:20 #
Truddles
Member

- When they change things on the computer with little or no explanation.
Why do they always assume that we all know all the basics and all the latest terms? For instance my antivirus programme has just upgraded to the latest version and in doing so removed the search engine that I use. It's taken me hours to work out how to reinstate it as they've changed the way that you set the default. I had to search on the web to work out what they were meaning in the instructions. But I've finally done it

Sun Oct 16 2011 11:40:14 #
Wombat140
Member

Those upgrades get on my nerves. Once upon a time you had your programs, and they stayed the way you put them unless you upgraded them yourself. Now all the manufacturers seem to expect to be allowed to fiddle around with the programs any time they want, on your own computer, and you just have to keep up! With security programs there's SOME excuse, because they need to keep up with the latest viruses - but that's no reason to mess with other things, like that of yours, while they're at it. What business has the antivirus got with the default search engine, anyway? Well done cracking the code, though!

Wed Oct 26 2011 16:21:53 #
Grawsy
Member

It irritates me when people make noise when they eat. Particularly those who eat in public.....

Thu Oct 27 2011 13:53:59 #
wendybpool
Member

Before I carry on please be aware - MY CHILDREN SUFFER FROM AUTISM.

Before you all get your pitch forks ready my children are the ones that sit in the main shopping trolly compartment but it's because they suffer from autism and can't handle the sensory overload e.g. bright lights, brightly coloured packageing, loud noise, lots of people and the list goes on. The one thing that my two sons can not handle in any way, shape, or form is the (mind my spelling) tannoy/overhead loudspeaker/announcy thing that the supermarkets use to make announcements. It completely disturbs them and sends them into a huge fit where they throw themselves around and destroy eveything within their grasp.

When they sit in the main compartment it takes their mind of all their sensory issues as they feel like they are in their own safety bubble.

I do my best not to have to take my children with me to the supermarket as I know full well and other customers don't fail to make it very clear to me just how much they all hate my mentally disabled children. I have been told that my children are the exact reason why the government doesn't abolish abortions.

I only ever take my children with me to the supermarket if there is no other way around the problem. I usually do my shopping online but there always come that one time in a hundred where there is no other way.

My children are four and three years old. They have no understanding of the concept of speech and so I can't just verbally explain things to them and believe me if I thought a good smack would cure their autism - don't people think I would have done that a long time ago. I don't keep my children mentally disabled on purpose. If there was a cure I would have cured them from the very beginning.

Everytime I leave my front door all my children are told by everyone is that they are bad children, naughty children, asbos etc. People tell me that I should keep them locked away from "normal" people and keep them locked away from society. Luckily for them they have no idea what people think of them as they live in their own world and aren't aware of their surroundings.

They are mentally disabled and can't help the way they are. They didn't choose to be autistic. All they need is a little patience and some understanding.

So people, please, before you chastise the parent of an unrully child, please be aware of the tears that mother may have spent shedding due to your comments and thoughts.

Please see the child behind their disability.

Sun Oct 30 2011 11:43:19 #
Truddles
Member

It must be difficult for you not only having OCD but two children that are autistic and don’t get me wrong - I do feel for you. But it doesn’t change the fact that it’s disgusting putting a child in the main part of the trolley.
Aside from the hygiene view point there are other reasons why children are not permitted in the main part of the trolley.
- The seats are situated at the wider end of the trolley to give more stability and in the event of the trolley being knocked it’s easier to reach to protect the child.
- Should there be an accident to either you, your children or to others you wouldn’t be covered by insurance as you would be deemed to have not used the equipment correctly for its intended purpose.
- The child risks serious injury if someone drops something heavy in the trolley accidentally. I have seen this many times and on occasion done it myself – got something off the shelf and thrown it in what I thought was my trolley only to find when I turned around discovered it was someone else’s.

I fully accept that there are children who cannot help their behaviour because they have health problems. They can't help it and provided the parents are doing their best in what is a difficult situation I have no problem with them. Though if they allow their children to interfere with either shoppers or produce then I find that unacceptable.

What I was complaining about were children that have no conditions that affect their behaviour being allowed and in some cases encouraged by the parents to run amok in the supermarket – it isn’t a playground and can be extremely dangerous.

Only Friday a child was playing up in the supermarket and so the father took an expensive toy off the shelf took it out of the box and gave it to the child to play with, it was then broken and abandoned by the child in the middle of the aisle. Had someone not seen it and picked it up immediately someone could have tripped over it. Also until it’s paid for it’s not his to play with and break. That adds to the cost of everyone’s shop.

It is only a small minority of the badly behaved kids that actually have a genuine condition that affects their behaviour. And perhaps if the parents of those whose kids don't have any diagnosed behavioural problems kept them under control there would be more understanding of the problems that parents of children with behavioural problems face. At the moment people just assume that they are all just naughty because the majority are just that.

Sun Oct 30 2011 13:38:10 #

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