OCD Action

OCDLONELY
Member

Hello Everyone old and new. I haven't been on here in some time for many reasons but just wanted to come here as I felt I needed to and I do miss it. I'm really going through things at the moment. The last time I posted I had said about finally getting out of the house after so many years housebound. Well I'm still going out everyday and when I'm upset of feel trapped I just put on my shoes and off I go. The thing is after all this effort and facing so much fear my depression kicks in and I feel so low and empty and like all my efforts are pointless. I have some amazing online friends that have helped me so much and I love them all and would be lost without them. I just want things to progress more. I want to meet friends in person and to be able to socialise. I so want to meet a nice girl and have a relationship as it's another thing I've not experienced. I just worry that I'm too messed up for anyone to be able to like or even love me like that. Being so lonely and having nothing to do is the hardest thing for me. I'm scared of staying as I am but also scared of what lies ahead. Sorry to write so much but I would love to talk to my old friends here again and also to make some new ones. I hope you are all coping and hope that 2010 is the year we show OCD who is in control and take away its hold on us so we can reach our goals and dreams. Take care everyone!

Daniel

Fri Jan 8 2010 12:05:47 #
Unregistered

Hello Daniel
Just wanted to say hi because I am a fairly new member and haven't posted to you before. I am sorry you feel so lonely, it's good that you can at least get out of the house. Did you know that it is possible if you are unable to work because of your OCD and on certain benefits you can get a free bus pass. I know a chap with OCD who has one and makes really good use of it, in fact he even met a girl he liked at a bus stop and she keeps texting him.
Is there an OCD support group near you, this would be a good place to start socialising. It's great to hear from you and I hope 2010 will be the year you really start to show your OCD that you're the boss. Take care, Joyce

Fri Jan 8 2010 12:22:59 #
Truddles
Member

Hi Daniel,

Like Joyce I'm fairly new to the forum so we haven't spoken before, but I had seen your name before.

I'm so sorry to hear that you're so lonely, it's horrible being alone isn't it? It's good that you're able to get out. I too am lonely and when I managed to get my OCD fairly well controlled in 2008 I started to practise my socialising skills by making a point of talking to everyone that I dealt with when out shopping, once I mastered that skill I started to contact old friends.

Unfortunately I had a severe relapse at beginning of 2009 due to multiple circumstances and lost contact with the friends so I've started once again to talk to everyone I meet when I'm out.

I think that Joyce's idea of joining a local support group is excellent. Practise makes perfect and eventually you will find friends. Never give up hope.

In the meantime you've got loads of friends on this forum, so keep posting and remember you are not alone.

Best wishes
Truddles

Fri Jan 8 2010 12:37:58 #
bingo
Member

Hi Daniel,

Good to see you back on the site. Hope you are able to get out and meet people.

Bingo

Fri Jan 8 2010 12:45:09 #
Unregistered

Hi Daniel

I am fairly new to the forum too. I too have seen your old postings and am really pleased to have you back on the forum.

You were tremendously brave going out when you were so scared. I should know this, I have spent days or even weeks in the house when the OCD has been at its worst and still don't go out a lot.

As Truddles says a really good way of making friends is talking to people on the bus. I do this a lot and it makes people smile and they remember me next time they see me. I do hope you meet a kind girl soon. In the meantime you are never alone on this forum. I have met better friends on this forum than I have anywhere else. As a result I am no longer lonley.
Please keep coming back
to the forum

Very best wishes

Anne x

Fri Jan 8 2010 13:49:38 #
Unregistered

Hi, I'm pretty new so we haven't come across each other before, but I hope to see you around. I'm glad things have been better for you in terms of getting out of the house, but I'm sorry that you are still feeling low at times. Stay strong and safe.

Helz

Fri Jan 8 2010 15:46:25 #
aishah
Member

Hi,I used to come on the forum a few years ago and am now back on too. I am sorry you are feeling low at the moment. Without the forum these last few weeks I don't know how I would have managed.

I know how you feel about the depression, that holds me back as much as OCD does sometimes.

Look forward to chatting to you again
Regards
Bridget

Fri Jan 8 2010 16:35:23 #
OCDLONELY
Member

Thank you everyone for your replies. You are all very kind and I appreciate you all taking the time to read my post and reply. I hope to be on here more often and hope to talk and get to know old friends and new friends alike. If anyone feels like they need to talk to someone or would just like a chat I would be very happy to hear from you. Take good care everyone

Daniel

Fri Jan 8 2010 18:27:39 #
Unregistered

hi daniel , its horrible feeling lonely but this forum is brill for talking to people.sounds like you are making progress mate . a support group would be great for you to talk to people in person.
take care mate cheers jimmy

Fri Jan 8 2010 18:54:42 #
stevieb
Member

Hello Daniel,

I too feel very lonely a lot of the time, and want to meet a nice girlfriend. That is the one thing I need more than anything else in my life.

I've also felt trapped by OCD in the past, and it still gets in the way a little bit, but not for much longer.

Good on you for getting out, just keep on doing that, keep talking to people, and you will feel better.

Let us know how you are getting on.

Steve

Fri Jan 8 2010 21:20:17 #
Moocher
Member

What form does your OCD take that keeps you housebound? I hope you don't mind me asking.

Sat Jan 9 2010 0:25:33 #
OCDLONELY
Member

Thank you everyone for your comments and advise. What form of ocd do I have that keeps me or did keep me in doors? Well contamination fears would be the main reason but also social anxiety. I also have an eating disorder and a form of BDD. I am fighting though and although there are many set backs and lows I keep doing what I'm doing so something must be working. I just need friends and a relationship and to feel I have purpose and meaning in my life.

Sat Jan 9 2010 1:12:13 #
Moocher
Member

I think some form of social anxiety is probably more common than most people think. I think the important thing is not to expect miracles and expect things to get better overnight. It's going to take a lot of time and a lot of work.
I was reading about the amygdala causing a feeling of your life not having any purpose. It's something to do with having too little dopamine. I've started to take Korean Ginseng to try and rectify this.

Sat Jan 9 2010 1:53:46 #
brennie
Member

Hello Daniel, its good to hear from you after such a long time, i am so pleased that you are still managing to go outdoors for short walks, that is marvellous Dan! Keep in touch on the forum, if you still have my mobile number give me a ring and we can have a chat and a catch up.

Love Brennie x

Sat Jan 9 2010 13:18:52 #
Truddles
Member

Hi Daniel,

One step at a time - develop friendships first and then that special relationship will surely follow. But you need to develop a social network first.

You're doing really well to go out, so don't beat yourself up instead be proud of your achievements

Don't forget we need to like ourselves in order to enable others to like us

Best wishes

Truddles

Sat Jan 9 2010 15:43:13 #
Unregistered

Hello, hope you're ok. Thanks for the friend invite, I have accepted.

Sat Jan 9 2010 17:29:12 #