I have always tried to be there for anyone that needed help and have made some good friends on the forum. However a recent post directed at me personally has really upset me.
Not only is my OCD playing up but my physical health is deteriorating and so I can well do without this sort of thing.
So I wish you all luck with your OCD and all the best for the future.
Trudy
Trudy -
please reconsider. You are a great forum member, and I admire you and love your contributions. I don't know what reply towards you upset you so much, and come to that, I think I don't want to know.
I hope you have a good night's sleep and can find it in you to look at your stance for a second time.
All the best,
love, Cuthbert.
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I don't know what has happened exactly, but I really hope it doesn't scare you off the forum. You've been such a great member and friend, I think we would all miss you. 
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P.S. Hello ocdmama, welcome to the forum! 
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Please don't leave Truddles. What will we all do without you???
Giles
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Swan, thats quite a nasty comment you made there. What so Rena32 should say nothing then? The fact is, the comment was a nice one and I would feel valued as a person reading that. Whoever made it personal to Trudy and drove her away will be blocked from my account, because we're here to support each other, not fight, nor use this as a forum for gathering University research.
I dont think my coment was nasty it was to support Trudy, as for using this forum for a gathering for university research that is definitly not me as i refuse to ger involved with any so called university research, So i suggest that you say this second comment to those on forum who are involved in so called university research. but you know what i supported you when you had a response that hurt you but im not going to bother. This forum has changed in recent months. I have enough to work through with out responses like the one you have just given me. im coming off the forum
Hi everyone,
I feel that I have to step in here.
I didn't actually say that I was leaving but that I wasn't well and couldn't cope at the moment.
The issue with the post that upset me has been resolved, we both agree that we overreacted and are now friends. But it wasn't so much the post that upset me as to the fact that things are getting too much for me at the moment and so it was the straw that broke the camels back so as to speak. I just had had enough at that point. So much is going on and going wrong.
I don't think that swan's comment was addressed to anyone in particular and speaking for myself I thought that it was a very caring thing to say. Thank you swan, yes it would be nice if people wanted me just for who I am.
At the moment I need 'me time' to try and come to terms with what happened to me a year ago today.
I will be back, but in the meantime I will continue to answer any PMs. Thank you to all those who have sent me PMs asking if I was ok.
Thinking of you all.
Trudy
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Trudy
I am really pleased you are back on the forum. It has been good for you and you have been good for it.
Giles I do not think people are using the site for such purposes but if they are I do not think it is against the rules as the site is in the public domain.
Teresa please don't leave the site. You are lovely and we need and like you and it is good for you too - expecially when CBT has not worked for you.
I think we are all struggling a bit at the moment. Let's hope we can all put this behind us
Love to you all
Anne
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Hi,
I am not back on the forum, I just came on as I thought that I needed to clarify the situation but obviously I was misunderstood again.
At the moment I need 'me time' to try and come to terms with what happened to me a year ago today.I will be back, but in the meantime I will continue to answer any PMs. Thank you to all those who have sent me PMs asking if I was ok.
I am grieving and need time for me in order to come to terms with it.
Trudy
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I'm off the forum. I think its safe to say, I'm not human.
Giles I would like to see the wires and plugs and REALLY want to see if I can get the pattent on you because I've never heard of anything 'not human' being able to type and emote as you are. If you are a cyborge, you are worth millions and I'd like a copy. Otherwise, the only other expplaination is that you are indeed a human, and therefore you are not perfect. Darn it all...that little OCD devil wants you to think you have to be perfect and without flaw!...well you figure out what to tell him...because quite frankly he is running your life. Dont let the little imp have his way. Speak to yourself as you would a dear friend...speak to OCD as an enemy. You must separate yourself from the OCD.
Andrea
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I mean, I never mean't the Uni research statement to be directed to swan. It was general comment. Its just her comment felt negative and for some reason, it upset me. Am I socially inept? Am I Alan patridge?
I just feel I'm destined to upset everybody I come into contact with.
I'm sorry, I do not know who Alan Patridge is...I get the feeling that probably makes me inept in some way...lol. But oh well.
I think we are all inclined to say things that can easily get misinterpreted over cyberspace. After all there is no real way to express meaning so one must be very good with words or will for certain trip up now and then. I do not want to offer too much reassurance because I know it makes OCD worse, but I'd say you are very human indeed.
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I thought Rena's message was lovely. I hope she has not been put off the forum. My goodness, don't we have to be careful how we phrase things?!
@Beth -
spot on. One of the characteristics of OCD is that we have trouble 'weighing' things in a normal (i.e. relativistic) fashion. I for one had enormous problems when friends said something teasing to me (which is a feature of real friendship). I interpreted things much too heavily, with the emphasis on 'insult'. Which is dangerous, because it can harm good relationships. Luckily this is one of the things I was able to 'unlearn'.
To add: in messaging, you can't see the facial expression of the other, nor can you ask, or correct instantaneously in case of a misunderstanding. So the risk something getting misinterpreted is even higher, due to the nature of the medium.
My advice: never lean back brooding in such cases; OCD will make it 'bigger and bigger' in your brain. PM directly if you feel like having been treated in an untoward fashion. Or make a case about it on the board and ask others.
I am absolutely convinced that no one here is out to insult or belittle any other person. One can read that between the lines.
Ciao, Cuthbert.
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Well said Cuthbert. I do not believe anyone uses this forum to upset others, it is the OCD which looks inwards scrutinising every tiny detail, going over and over conversations and responses, constantly criticising and belittling oneself. Once more I am on my self esteem hobby horse but I do believe it really helps.
I am starting to get weary of playing musical chairs with balls being taken out of play and if we with OCD can't work out how to deal with our own sensitivities heaven help our non-OCD partners and families who have to live with us.
So lets all try to wear our thick skinned overcoats and our comfy self esteem thermals and take a deep breath before responding to comments which the OCD will twist and distort into something totally unintended.
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