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Gigolo
Member

It was called 'my teen daughter, the nudist'. I'm starting to wonder if television is beginning to over-step boundaries somewhat. I was watching it with a friend the other day. Well, it was her television, so didn't quibble and didn't want her thinking anything about me if I asked her to turn it over.

With my OCD, I sometimes question if it is OCD and whether I may be using OCD action as a safe haven. But the disturbing thing about the program is that they were actively encouraging young people to become publicly nudist, which isn't a good idea, especially with perverts being around, to which I'm concerned I might be.

You see, I'm not turned on by women over 18, just adolescents. Well, I don't think that I am. I think I gave myself the idea and it manifested itself over the years. I was concerned that if my friend wasn't there, I would be full on sexually aroused and use it as a stepping stone for full on masturbaton. It did kind of affect my mood negatively and am not too sure how to deal with it

Fri Jan 13 2012 11:47:43 #
wannabefree
Member

Hi Gigolo, I missed the programme... You could be right about programme making overstepping boundaries a bit, but it would have been originally shown after the 'watershed' so would have been watchable by many. It sounds fascinating...
I would try not to worry about your feelings, it doesn't mean you are an awful person, in fact these thoughts could be normal thoughts, that most just see as passing traffic. Many women will read the Sun newspaper despite page 3, and probably read a lot of other stuff too. It appears to be a harmless fascination with the younger form, people who haven't yet been ravaged by the physical strains of life, like childbirth etc...
Wannabe

Fri Jan 13 2012 21:05:32 #
playthoseblues
Member

I don't really like the things that Channel 4 shows, like Dispatches and "informative documentaries", I don't believe they really want to show awareness of these programmes, and instead just like to portray something thats different to get views.

Could be just me on that one however

Jon

Sat Jan 14 2012 9:23:00 #
Cuthbert ffoliott
Moderator

Hi Gigolo -

like Wannabefree said: I would try not to worry about your feelings (which sounds fairly gratuitous). Thing is: you express concern and negative affect in relation to watching that programme. That is telling. You're not a pervert, you are afraid of being one, and that is something different. A pervert feels what he/she feels, and does what he/she does.

That said, a fascination with the younger form (to quote Wannabefree) is normal, it is certainly not the same as a perversion. Many artists the world over, up to very old age, make a good living out of this admiration. It's not bad, it's not criminal. Perhaps this helps you a bit to see it in perspective.

Best, Cuthbert.

Sat Jan 14 2012 10:56:48 #
Gigolo
Member

Thank you for all of your insights. It's certainly good to get different perspectives on this. Another interesting program was that one shown, I think, on ITV. It was about a man who hoarded newspapers and you had to crawl through his house to get from room to room. Shocking how Hoarding can take over your life so severely. I didn't watch much of it unfortunately, so cannot offer an informed opinion on it. It revealed the communities willingness to help him clean out his newspapers, but their total lack of understanding about OCD and it's effects on a person.

Sat Jan 14 2012 15:03:26 #
Wings
Member

Hi Gigolo,
My OCD works slightly different with this subject, but I do agree with TV over stepping the mark, when I see things like that even knowing that other people are watching, even if I dont know them, I get so embarrassed and to a point where I feel physically sick and want to switch the satalite off, you see I have OCD about morals, and behaviour, and I just dont get it, then I try and understand why they want to show their bodies to the public, when we are are civalised race, well mostly, clothed and have no reasons to show our bits in public, and the people that watch, make me feel a bit weird as to why. OCD kicking in so Im going to grab a valerian tea

Sat Jan 14 2012 15:54:24 #
Wings
Member

[b]Hi Gigolo -

like Wannabefree said: I would try not to worry about your feelings (which sounds fairly gratuitous). Thing is: you express concern and negative affect in relation to watching that programme. That is telling. You're not a pervert, you are afraid of being one, and that is something different. A pervert feels what he/she feels, and does what he/she does.

I completely agree with Cuthbert ffoliott with this, Gigolo, you sound like a really good person.

Sat Jan 14 2012 15:57:39 #
wannabefree
Member

This has got me thinking, and I haven't got a dictionary, but what does the word 'gratuitous' mean? I'm confused now, I'm hoping I haven't offended anyone, cos My OCD puts me against that, a good thing in moderation .I've not intended anything awful, hopefully everything is okay. I guess that 'Life modelling' would be banned in art schools if it was a bad thing. Nature makes us to be attracted to others, and this is natural. If we were looking at same sex pictures and getting turned on by that, then that would say something completely different... Here's hoping I haven't upset anyone, cos that was never intended. Maybe I'm just being too sensitive at the mo
Wannabe

Sun Jan 15 2012 13:45:55 #
Cuthbert ffoliott
Moderator

Hey Wannabefree, no worry -

we in Holland have 'gratuit', and IMHO 'gratuitous' is a correct translation, but I saw that English has 'gratuit' also.

What I meant: when I tell someone else not to worry about her/his feelings, than that is such an easy thing to do for me, and it can be so hard to follow my advice for that other person.

That easiness for me is what I call 'gratuitous', or 'gratuit'. So the relative shortcoming is all mine here, I don't have to share the burden that the other carries. See?

(must be off to watch the page 3 girl now )

Sun Jan 15 2012 14:02:50 #
Truddles
Member

This has got me thinking, and I haven't got a dictionary
You don't need a book - not when you have the computer as you've got the dictionary and thesaurus on word and all the dictionaries etc on the internet.

Sun Jan 15 2012 15:55:55 #
wannabefree
Member

Hi Cuthbert, Thank you, no problem! I understand now, and I'm fine with it. Hi Trudy, yes, I keep forgetting that basically I can google a word, and get the definition, I'm not used to just how much we can find on the internet! In my mid fifies, and still trying not to be a person frightened of pushing the wrong buttons and doing real damage to the computer, although I'm told that is very unlikely to happen, but that's just me...
Wannabe

Sun Jan 15 2012 16:19:27 #
Truddles
Member

I've got a word document that I use for writing my PMs and posts, I've got it on my desktop (shortcut). It means that I can take my time writing the posts or PMs and then copy and paste them. It also means that if they fail to send or get eaten by the OCD Action forum, I've still got the original to resend.

It's also handy for checking spelling (just right click on the word and click on 'look up' and definitions. Much easier than flicking through the book.
I also use The Free Dictionary a lot. It's not just a dictionary (using several well known dictionaries), but a thesaurus, medical, legal and financial dictionary and encyclopaedia as well.

Sun Jan 15 2012 18:22:12 #
wannabefree
Member

Hi Trudy, thank you for the link to that dictionary, it is fantastic! I've popped it on favourites so I can find it anytime, thanks ever so much,
Wannabe

Sun Jan 15 2012 20:18:13 #
Gigolo
Member

Thanks for the Insights everyone

Sun Jan 15 2012 22:10:56 #