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bubbles
Member

i have just gone to reply to somebody's thread on here and i had nearly finished when i suddenly thought i can't post this Coz that person will read this then carry out what i am saying and then i will be responsible if anything happened to them. i am terrible at putting things into words so hope this makes sense. they were talking about food and hygiene. very angry with myself that i didn't send it

Sat Apr 23 2011 11:44:57 #
brennie
Member

wiggy, i do the same thing it takes me ages to write something on here, i doubt myself continuously thinking that something i have said is wrong, i am always afraid of saying something that offends.

brennie x

Sat Apr 23 2011 12:28:46 #
Truddles
Member

Hi wiggy,

That's the OCD butting in making you think that you'd be responsible if anything happened to someone because of what you wrote. You are responsible only for your actions not the actions of anyone else, so please don't be afraid to post your opinions. If you're going to get angry with anyone it should be your OCD and not yourself.
A lot of members have this fear because of their OCD. I have a word document that I keep for writing my posts and PMs then once I've finished them I copy and paste them onto the forum. If you do this once you've written your reply if you get cold feet you can always save it, go away and then when you feel confident enough to reply you can then paste it onto the forum. It also means that if it fails to post you still have it and can try again.

Sat Apr 23 2011 12:34:11 #
Ratwomble
Member

Dear wiggy

I worry about that too, particularly when I get particularly pompous. And brennie, I worry dreadfully about offending people.

But Trudy is spot on. We are all only responsible for ourselves.

And wiggy, I wish you had posted it. I like reading your posts

David

Sat Apr 23 2011 14:57:33 #
bubbles
Member

thankyou david truddles and brennie you are all so right. i just can't get my head around this one. i get what you say truddles that everyone is responsible for their own actions and not everybody elses but that was my action to write those words and making me responsible

Sat Apr 23 2011 15:51:24 #
Truddles
Member

Yes, they would have been your words and you would be responsible for the fact that you'd written them but that's as far as it goes. Any action taken by another party as a result of what you'd written would be their responsibility and not your responsibility.

They are only words and as responsible adults it's entirely up to us as to whether we act upon something that we read. We live in a society where we are free to express our opinion and provided what we have to say is neither rude nor offensive to others we are entitled to voice it.

In this age of multimedia there are posters, adverts etc all around us telling us either what to do or that we can't live without certain items. Do we respond to them all? NO, we decide what is appropriate for us and ignore the rest.

OCD gives us an overinflated sense of responsibility and we have to learn to accept that we're not responsible for everything that happens. We just don't have that superpower, but imagine if we did - think of all the things in the world that we could change

Seriously you are not responsible for everyone else's actions, if you dump the idea that you are responsible you'll find that it will take one hell of a weight off your shoulders and you'll walk taller with more confidence.

As I've written responsibility so many times in this post perhaps I should put some money into the little pot next to my computer I put a coin in every time that I log on and the proceeds are for OCD Action. Perhaps we could all try it, it's one way of raising money for OCD Action, as even running this website costs money.

Sat Apr 23 2011 16:20:07 #
Ratwomble
Member

Darn Trudy said what I was about to post and said it so much better than me. I had a good example about drinking a bottle of chilli sauce and it is wasted now

Wiggy - one of the great things about a place like this is that we can gather lots of different points of view and choose what we do. The responsibility for which advice we choose to take is ours and ours alone.

I think you have a valid and interesting perspective on OCD. I for one really value your inputs and wish you did them more often

Hugs

David

Sat Apr 23 2011 16:31:15 #
Tess
Member

Hi Wiggy
I'm wondering if I was the person you were going to reply to because I mentioned food and hygeine and I agree with Trudy and David, you should have posted it. I feel bad that you spent your time replying and then felt you couldn't send it and wonder if I've written anything which has made you feel you have to tread carefully with me and if I have I'm really sorry. You needn't be afraid to post, if you disagree with something or have a different opinion you have every right to say so. So next time just press the send button - then you have 5 minutes to go back and make changes if you want to with the edit facility but it will still post and you won't have wasted your time.

Sat Apr 23 2011 17:42:58 #
bubbles
Member

thanks guys you always make me feel better. you are rights truddles if i could dump these thoughts i would feel loads better. david i still want to hear your chilli sauce story and yes it was you tess don't feel bad it has happened a couple of times now that's why was frustrated.

Sun Apr 24 2011 10:02:03 #