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nettlenoo
Member

hello havent been for a while but i have a little dilemma, basically my friends best mate is coming to stay with us for 3 nights 4 days and im really unnerved by the whole thing, one i have germ issues i.e bathroom etc plus also i feel like im going to be invaded and that i will have to be a hostess with the mostess and i cannot be dealing with that i will have to cook and clean up after him etc and im so stressed about it. what can i do to ease the pressure

Tue Sep 27 2011 10:32:46 #
Tess
Member

Hi nettlenoo
Firstly I think you are very brave to be having this person stay with you and you should feel proud of yourself. Secondly, whyever do you have to be the hostess with mostest, this is pressure you are putting on yourself. It's your home, this person will be your guest and you call the shots. I suggest you find out from your friend as much as you can about your guest, their likes and dislikes and decide on any essential 'ground rules' you need which will help you to relax and possibly even enjoy having the visitor. Work out easy menus beforehand which involve minimal cooking and clearing away, get the shopping in advance and plan to make the visit as stressless as possible. Then summon up all your self confidence so that you can explain the ground rules to your visitor, he is going to feel awkward staying with you until you break the ice and what better way than telling him your difficulties and asking for his understanding.

Tue Sep 27 2011 11:02:21 #
Ratwomble
Member

Nettlenoo.

Last year, at the height of my OCD, I had to go to Austria to visit friends. I did what Tess recommends and just explained how I was to my friend and told him I couldn't do certain things and that I was likely to freak out for the oddes reasons. He was wonderful and I feel closer to him now than ever before.

I think Tess is right, just discuss it with him. Explain what you need him to do. And enjoy his visit.

Good luck

David

Thu Sep 29 2011 17:49:53 #