http://www.ocdaction.org.uk/forums/tags/ocpd It's Time to Act. OCD Action provides support and information for people affected by Obsessive Compulsive Disorder. Mon, 21 May 2012 15:30:32 +0000 http://bbpress.org/?v=1.0.2 q http://www.ocdaction.org.uk/forums/search.php http://www.ocdaction.org.uk/forums/topic/ocpd-obsessive-compulsive-personality-disorder-1#post-45832 Mon, 13 Sep 2010 15:30:27 +0000 Anonymous 45832@http://www.ocdaction.org.uk/forums/ <p>Peter? Where? &lt;img src=&quot;http://www.ocdaction.org.uk/forums/bb-plugins/bb-smilies/default/icon_eek.gif&quot; title=&quot;8O&quot; class=&quot;bb_smilies&quot; /&gt; </p> <p>And I started it, I clicked on a taggy thing cos I saw 'OCPD' and I dunno what that is and now I'm all confuzled. &lt;img src=&quot;http://www.ocdaction.org.uk/forums/bb-plugins/bb-smilies/default/icon_sad.gif&quot; title=&quot;:(&quot; class=&quot;bb_smilies&quot; /&gt; </p> http://www.ocdaction.org.uk/forums/topic/ocpd-obsessive-compulsive-personality-disorder-1#post-45808 Mon, 13 Sep 2010 00:08:33 +0000 jo 45808@http://www.ocdaction.org.uk/forums/ <p>oops sorry didn't look at the date on the original thread &lt;img src=&quot;http://www.ocdaction.org.uk/forums/bb-plugins/bb-smilies/default/icon_redface.gif&quot; title=&quot;:oops:&quot; class=&quot;bb_smilies&quot; /&gt; <br /> was answering peter................time for bed me thinks </p> http://www.ocdaction.org.uk/forums/topic/ocpd-obsessive-compulsive-personality-disorder-1#post-45806 Sun, 12 Sep 2010 23:37:57 +0000 Anonymous 45806@http://www.ocdaction.org.uk/forums/ <p>WTF? Jo, what's going on.....?</p> <p>Right, that is the last time I click on the taggy thingys!!! &lt;img src=&quot;http://www.ocdaction.org.uk/forums/bb-plugins/bb-smilies/default/icon_lol.gif&quot; title=&quot;:lol:&quot; class=&quot;bb_smilies&quot; /&gt; </p> http://www.ocdaction.org.uk/forums/topic/ocpd-obsessive-compulsive-personality-disorder-1#post-45803 Sun, 12 Sep 2010 23:34:11 +0000 jo 45803@http://www.ocdaction.org.uk/forums/ <p>there is a previous thread on this subject you could try looking for it under forum topic.<br /> best wishes </p> http://www.ocdaction.org.uk/forums/topic/ocpd-obsessive-compulsive-personality-disorder-1#post-45800 Sun, 12 Sep 2010 23:17:37 +0000 Anonymous 45800@http://www.ocdaction.org.uk/forums/ <p>What's that? &lt;img src=&quot;http://www.ocdaction.org.uk/forums/bb-plugins/bb-smilies/default/icon_eek.gif&quot; title=&quot;8O&quot; class=&quot;bb_smilies&quot; /&gt; </p> http://www.ocdaction.org.uk/forums/topic/my-sons-ocd-made-him-think-i-was-contaminated-which-has-led-to-my-wife#post-43230 Mon, 26 Jul 2010 15:15:18 +0000 Anonymous 43230@http://www.ocdaction.org.uk/forums/ <p>Dear Peter, Forgive me if I was a little too personal in my PM. It’s difficult not to be in this situation.</p> <p>It does sound as if your wife’s strong maternal instinct has taken over. She can see how your son is suffering and is doing all she can to help him. She is putting everything into his welfare at this time. </p> <p>Best wishes, Tricia. </p> http://www.ocdaction.org.uk/forums/topic/my-sons-ocd-made-him-think-i-was-contaminated-which-has-led-to-my-wife#post-43222 Sun, 25 Jul 2010 19:13:46 +0000 petersouthyorkshire 43222@http://www.ocdaction.org.uk/forums/ <p>Thanks Tricia.</p> <p>She has gently and sometimes not so gently pointed them out over the years and given me an opportunities to try to make some changes but neither I nor she realised I had any sort of medically diagnosed Personality Disorder. I fear that she still doesn't think I have as she has not seen my doctor's notes.</p> <p>My wife until last year had always been quite timid and unassertive but when my son was diagnosed as having OCD with me the imagined source of contamination I think her maternal instincts towards our lovely teenage son, with his important GCSE's coming, took over. On top of my son's OCD she also had the additional stress of herself starting a new teaching post together with my then undiagnosed OCPD traits.</p> <p>I look forward to your PM.</p> <p>Peter </p> http://www.ocdaction.org.uk/forums/topic/ocpd-obsessive-compulsive-personality-disorder#post-43221 Sun, 25 Jul 2010 18:39:27 +0000 petersouthyorkshire 43221@http://www.ocdaction.org.uk/forums/ <p>Thanks Trudy.</p> <p>My OCPD has been diagnosed by my Consultant Psychiatrist.</p> <p>Peter </p> http://www.ocdaction.org.uk/forums/topic/ocpd-obsessive-compulsive-personality-disorder#post-43212 Sun, 25 Jul 2010 13:54:28 +0000 truddles 43212@http://www.ocdaction.org.uk/forums/ <p>Hi Peter,</p> <p>Welcome to the forum.</p> <p>I'm sorry to hear of the situation that you now find yourself in.</p> <p>You didn't say as to whether you've been diagnosed by a professional or not. Self diagnosis is frequently wrong, so I would suggest that you speak to your GP not only for a diagnosis but also to access treatment.</p> <p>If you go to the website for the Royal College of Psychiatrists at <a href="http://www.rcpsych.ac.uk" rel="nofollow">http://www.rcpsych.ac.uk</a> and then click on Mental Health Information and then on Personality Disorders it will give you some basic information on OCPD.</p> <p>Sorry I can't be of more help. </p> <p>Best wishes<br /> Trudy </p> http://www.ocdaction.org.uk/forums/topic/my-sons-ocd-made-him-think-i-was-contaminated-which-has-led-to-my-wife#post-43211 Sun, 25 Jul 2010 13:53:27 +0000 Anonymous 43211@http://www.ocdaction.org.uk/forums/ <p>Dear Peter, I am so very sorry to hear what this awful illness has cost you.</p> <p>I don’t have much time at the moment, but my family is in a similar position, though it hasn‘t resulted in a break-up yet. I’ll send you a PM tomorrow, because the content of what I have to say is very embarrassing for the person concerned.</p> <p>Your wife, understandably, has such empathy for your son, but she doesn’t appear to have as much understanding for your OCPD. OCD is actually easier to treat than personality traits. If she had problems dealing with these I wonder why she hasn’t gently pointed them out over the years and given you an opportunity to try to make some changes. My father made a tremendous effort with his obsessive personality, because my mother pointed out the strain it placed on her. He couldn’t change entirely, but they reached a compromise. </p> <p>I will try to send a PM tomorrow, about the very personal things I can‘t discuss here.</p> <p>Best wishes, Tricia. </p> http://www.ocdaction.org.uk/forums/topic/ocpd-obsessive-compulsive-personality-disorder#post-43210 Sun, 25 Jul 2010 13:42:35 +0000 Anonymous 43210@http://www.ocdaction.org.uk/forums/ <p>Hello Peter, I have family members with this personality. What do you want to know about it?</p> <p>Best wishes, Tricia. </p> http://www.ocdaction.org.uk/forums/topic/ocpd-obsessive-compulsive-personality-disorder-1#post-43209 Sun, 25 Jul 2010 13:31:27 +0000 petersouthyorkshire 43209@http://www.ocdaction.org.uk/forums/ <p>Has anyone any experience of OC(P)D or can offer informed knowledge about it please </p> http://www.ocdaction.org.uk/forums/topic/ocpd-obsessive-compulsive-personality-disorder#post-43208 Sun, 25 Jul 2010 13:26:15 +0000 petersouthyorkshire 43208@http://www.ocdaction.org.uk/forums/ <p>Has anyone any experience of OC(P)D or can offer informed knowledge about it please. </p> http://www.ocdaction.org.uk/forums/topic/my-sons-ocd-made-him-think-i-was-contaminated-which-has-led-to-my-wife#post-43207 Sun, 25 Jul 2010 13:07:32 +0000 Anonymous 43207@http://www.ocdaction.org.uk/forums/ <p>Hi Peter,</p> <p>I do not know whether or not his OCD will flare up again if he sees you - sorry. It is a tricky condition. Mine flares up if I am criticised or misunderstood. But, being older, I have found ways of dealing with this while saving my rleationships. </p> <p>Can you see a therapist about this? S/he might be able to help. I do think it is better to talk to someone face to face who knows about the condition and the personality disorder.</p> <p>I wish I could be more help. </p> <p>Anne </p> http://www.ocdaction.org.uk/forums/topic/my-sons-ocd-made-him-think-i-was-contaminated-which-has-led-to-my-wife#post-43205 Sun, 25 Jul 2010 12:47:53 +0000 petersouthyorkshire 43205@http://www.ocdaction.org.uk/forums/ <p>Thank you for your reply Anne.</p> <p>What I want to do most at the moment is to find a way of letting my wife and 16 year old son know that I couldn't help the way I was and that OCPD was responsible. She won't believe me if I tell her and is likely to see it as an excuse, so I need someone who she respects and trusts to explain to her.</p> <p>If and when she can be convinced about my OCPD will I have any hope of her co-operating in whatever needs to be done to solve the problem of my son's OCD.<br /> I assume that although he is not troubled with it while away from me that as soon as we were together that it would flare up again?</p> <p>In the meantime my wife is going ahead with divorce so there is real urgency.</p> <p>Peter </p> http://www.ocdaction.org.uk/forums/topic/my-sons-ocd-made-him-think-i-was-contaminated-which-has-led-to-my-wife#post-43202 Sun, 25 Jul 2010 11:18:34 +0000 Anonymous 43202@http://www.ocdaction.org.uk/forums/ <p>Hi Peter </p> <p>I am so sorry about this. I am sure there are many other cases like yours. If I do find anyone else I will get them to PM you if they are willing.</p> <p>What I do know is that when I left my husband the OCD did lose a lot of its strength - but it came back in full, in that it morphed. </p> <p>I do think it is important that you stop blaming yourself for your OPCD. I used to spend years blaming my parents who clearly had that personality type. They were real perfectionists and workaholics, rather inflexible and hated amateurism. But they did not cause or worsen my OCD. </p> <p>OCD is a condition and no one is to blame for it. But OCD does need treatment whether this be self help or with the help of a professional. OPCD can be treated by cognitive therapy too if it casues problems for you. [Tallis, Understanding Obsessions and Compulsions] </p> <p>I can only suggest that you look after yourself and learn as much about OCD as you can. I will PM you and talk more.</p> <p>Very best wishes<br /> Anne </p> http://www.ocdaction.org.uk/forums/topic/my-sons-ocd-made-him-think-i-was-contaminated-which-has-led-to-my-wife#post-43201 Sun, 25 Jul 2010 10:21:03 +0000 petersouthyorkshire 43201@http://www.ocdaction.org.uk/forums/ <p>Hello Anne</p> <p>The trouble is that my wife tells me, since they left and my son has been away from me, that he no longer has to wash all the time because I, the source of his imagined contamination, am no longer with him.</p> <p>I love my wife and my son and I want to have them back but fear that my son still won't want to be near me as long as his OCD is not dealt with. Before they left he was advised to do CBT homework but was told that it could take second place to his GCSE's. So my son won't get his control back as things stand.</p> <p>By leaving me, my wife has removed herself from my OCPD traits, which I have only been made aware of since they left. Also by taking my son away from me she has, to her mind, solved my son's OCD.</p> <p>Do you know of any similar situations to mine?</p> <p>I'd like to talk more with you if possible</p> <p>Peter </p> http://www.ocdaction.org.uk/forums/topic/my-sons-ocd-made-him-think-i-was-contaminated-which-has-led-to-my-wife#post-43180 Sat, 24 Jul 2010 18:46:16 +0000 Anonymous 43180@http://www.ocdaction.org.uk/forums/ <p>Hi</p> <p>I am so sorry for what has happened. The families of OCD do become victims too. As a severe OCD sufferer for over 40 years I do know this only too well. MY OCD was the major reason for my walking out on my first husband. </p> <p>I have moved house on at least one occasion because it was too contaminated and when I was really severely ill I could not hug my present husband (of 30 years) at all. He, of course, took this personally and I am only just beginning to see his point. </p> <p>I really hope that when your son gets treatment for his OCD and gets his control back, things will improve between the two of you.</p> <p>If your OCPD has resulted in depression I believe that SSRIs may help. </p> <p>All the very best.</p> <p>Anne </p> http://www.ocdaction.org.uk/forums/topic/my-sons-ocd-made-him-think-i-was-contaminated-which-has-led-to-my-wife-1#post-43179 Sat, 24 Jul 2010 18:36:15 +0000 petersouthyorkshire 43179@http://www.ocdaction.org.uk/forums/ <p>My son's OCD made him think I was contaminated which has led to my wife and my son leaving me. Are there any others in my position or similar?</p> <p>2 years ago my 15 year old son was diagnosed as suffering from Obsessive Compulsive Disorder after we noticed he was making his hands raw washing after touching door handles in our home . Tragically we discovered that his OCD took the form of a feeling of deep anxiety whenever he touched anything I had touched or was even near me. The child psychiatrist we took our son to see recommended Cognitive Behaviour Therapy but advised our son to concentate on his GCSE's for the present.</p> <p>Gradually my wife and son spent more and more time apart from me in one room with myself in another because of my son's OCD. This left me feeling that I was a leper in my own house. I tried to talk to my wife about my feelings of lack of affection from both of them, and my isolation and exclusion and how we might cope with the situation - but the more I tried the more she wouldn't listen.</p> <p>I then gradually sank into deepening depression, about the cruel gulf that OCD had created between my dearly loved son and myself and my lovely wife and I. (Up to 2 years ago I had been a very happy outgoing person.)</p> <p>Eventually, in a marriage which had already had more than its fair share of mostly undeserved stress, and now with the added daily heavy burden of trying to cope with the tension that OCD had brought into the family home, my wife took the drastic decision to take my son away and file for divorce - which has left me alone, utterly distraught and helpless.</p> <p>From the day they left 7 months ago, I have been severely traumatised and have been left, pondering the cruel blow OCD had dealt.</p> <p>My little family of just the three of us was my life and despite attempts to find out how my high-achieving son has fared with his GCSE's and how my wife is getting on in her new teaching job, they refuse to have anything to do with me.</p> <p>I have no other family here and constantly pray to be reconciled with my wife and my son and for us to be reunited as a family. I have tried hard to find someone who might have the time and be concerned enough, to help to bring the three of us together again - but so far all too no avail.</p> <p>A new factor that has come to light since my wife and son left me is that I myself have OCPD traits which, as with all OCPD sufferers, I was unaware of until they were pointed out to me. I understand like OCD that OCPD is genetic but one major difference between the two is that those with OCD know they have it whereas OCPD sufferers don't.</p> <p>I now fear that, as well as trying to deal with my son's OCD, my then undiagnosed OCPD traits were a big factor in my wife's decision to leave. </p> http://www.ocdaction.org.uk/forums/topic/my-sons-ocd-made-him-think-i-was-contaminated-which-has-led-to-my-wife#post-43178 Sat, 24 Jul 2010 18:22:11 +0000 petersouthyorkshire 43178@http://www.ocdaction.org.uk/forums/ <p>My son's OCD made him think I was contaminated which has led to my wife and my son leaving me. Are there any others in my position or similar?</p> <p>2 years ago my 15 year old son was diagnosed as suffering from Obsessive Compulsive Disorder after we noticed he was making his hands raw washing after touching door handles in our home . Tragically we discovered that his OCD took the form of a feeling of deep anxiety whenever he touched anything I had touched or was even near me. The child psychiatrist we took our son to see recommended Cognitive Behaviour Therapy but advised our son to concentate on his GCSE's for the present.</p> <p>Gradually my wife and son spent more and more time apart from me in one room with myself in another because of my son's OCD. This left me feeling that I was a leper in my own house. I tried to talk to my wife about my feelings of lack of affection from both of them, and my isolation and exclusion and how we might cope with the situation - but the more I tried the more she wouldn't listen.</p> <p>I then gradually sank into deepening depression, about the cruel gulf that OCD had created between my dearly loved son and myself and my lovely wife and I. (Up to 2 years ago I had been a very happy outgoing person.)</p> <p>Eventually, in a marriage which had already had more than its fair share of mostly undeserved stress, and now with the added daily heavy burden of trying to cope with the tension that OCD had brought into the family home, my wife took the drastic decision to take my son away and file for divorce - which has left me alone, utterly distraught and helpless.</p> <p>From the day they left 7 months ago, I have been severely traumatised and have been left, pondering the cruel blow OCD had dealt.</p> <p>My little family of just the three of us was my life and despite attempts to find out how my high-achieving son has fared with his GCSE's and how my wife is getting on in her new teaching job, they refuse to have anything to do with me.</p> <p>I have no other family here and constantly pray to be reconciled with my wife and my son and for us to be reunited as a family. I have tried hard to find someone who might have the time and be concerned enough, to help to bring the three of us together again - but so far all too no avail.</p> <p>A new factor that has come to light since my wife and son left me is that I myself have OCPD traits which, as with all OCPD sufferers, I was unaware of until they were pointed out to me. I understand like OCD that OCPD is genetic but one major difference between the two is that those with OCD know they have it whereas OCPD sufferers don't.</p> <p>I now fear that, as well as trying to deal with my son's OCD, my then undiagnosed OCPD traits were a big factor in my wife's decision to leave. </p>