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Fri, 10 Feb 2012 03:24:30 +0000 http://bbpress.org/?v=1.0.2 q http://www.ocdaction.org.uk/forums/search.php http://www.ocdaction.org.uk/forums/topic/hocd-am-i-alone/page/2#post-49459 Thu, 20 Jan 2011 10:00:59 +0000 markie28 49459@http://www.ocdaction.org.uk/forums/ <p>Unfortunately my obssesion and fear is still there and its causing me great distress as i know who i am and what i want however , i can totaly relate that this illness makes things seem and feel so real , whats keeping me sane is that i know that i will never act on it noeither would i want to , but whats really getting to me is that i want to get back to how was during last summer and autumn the real me . </p> http://www.ocdaction.org.uk/forums/topic/hocd-am-i-alone/page/2#post-49439 Wed, 19 Jan 2011 19:59:41 +0000 Samanthabenjamin 49439@http://www.ocdaction.org.uk/forums/ <p>I am new to this website, and I know this post is really old so not sure you are still checking for new threads. How are you managing with it these days? I had exactly the same, out of the blue thought I was a lesbian. The obsession wasn't with women or the actions with another woman, it was surrounding the word "lesbian" I convinced myself I was one and that I should just admit to it. However I didn't/don't want to be so spent 24/7 arguing it in my head, until I read someone else's story on the net - it may aswell have been me writing it! that quashed that obsession, but unfortunately I have started on another one, kinda wish I could have the HOCD back! </p> http://www.ocdaction.org.uk/forums/topic/hocd-am-i-alone/page/2#post-49392 Tue, 18 Jan 2011 16:22:50 +0000 markie28 49392@http://www.ocdaction.org.uk/forums/ <p>Wow im so glad im not alone , my symptoms of hocd seem to keep coming and going or rather powerful on somedays than others , mine have only just started since december to be exact , it sucks , im hoping that it will go over time , i have a beautiful girlfriend who im sexualy attracted to and want to spend the rest of my life with but , ive learned that they are just thoughts which can be controlled over time . ive actualy asked gay people for their advice and the reponse i got was if your gay you will be out there persuing a homosexual lifestyle and will welcome these thoughts. </p> http://www.ocdaction.org.uk/forums/topic/fear-of-others-perceiving-me-as-gay#post-45872 Tue, 14 Sep 2010 14:24:22 +0000 Red Ruby 45872@http://www.ocdaction.org.uk/forums/ <p>Thanks Jessi for your kind wishes &lt;img src=&quot;http://www.ocdaction.org.uk/forums/bb-plugins/bb-smilies/default/icon_smile.gif&quot; title=&quot;:)&quot; class=&quot;bb_smilies&quot; /&gt; </p> <p>Swan, I can relate to what you say about finding things difficult at work, I too felt that everybody was talking about me. I found the HOCD so humiliating. </p> <p>I suffer from guilt and a sense of being undeserving and I think this just fuels the HOCD. </p> http://www.ocdaction.org.uk/forums/topic/fear-of-others-perceiving-me-as-gay#post-45643 Thu, 09 Sep 2010 06:21:56 +0000 swan 45643@http://www.ocdaction.org.uk/forums/ <p>Hi,<br /> I used to have the same and always seemed to look at people in places I shouldn't breasts ect. So felt this didn't help. A positive that has come from it is that i come from homophobic enviroment and because of the HOCD I am not and accept everyone for who they are. So i belive this has strenthed my character but did find it difficult when i felt everyone at work was talking about me. On one occassion it happened and i went off sick but think i was about to anyway, as i had just been diagnosed with ocd and depression </p> http://www.ocdaction.org.uk/forums/topic/fear-of-others-perceiving-me-as-gay#post-45591 Wed, 08 Sep 2010 20:46:21 +0000 Anonymous 45591@http://www.ocdaction.org.uk/forums/ <p>If you're gaay, so what? What's the worst that could happen if you were? Your OCD is just being nasty. Tell it very trongly to p*** off and get on with enjoying your life. &lt;img src=&quot;http://www.ocdaction.org.uk/forums/bb-plugins/bb-smilies/default/icon_smile.gif&quot; title=&quot;:-)&quot; class=&quot;bb_smilies&quot; /&gt; If you ARE gay then so what, you're still you.<br /> Good luck with fighting the evil OCD thoughts though.</p> <p>- Jessi </p> http://www.ocdaction.org.uk/forums/topic/fear-of-others-perceiving-me-as-gay#post-45565 Tue, 07 Sep 2010 21:21:24 +0000 Red Ruby 45565@http://www.ocdaction.org.uk/forums/ <p>Thanks for your reply Melissa,</p> <p>You are right about being myself, I guess I just have to face the fear.</p> <p>Red Ruby. </p> http://www.ocdaction.org.uk/forums/topic/fear-of-others-perceiving-me-as-gay#post-45562 Tue, 07 Sep 2010 18:32:31 +0000 melissamorgan1 45562@http://www.ocdaction.org.uk/forums/ <p>Oh i just did some researching - HOCD! - search that.</p> <p>you are not alone, and its just your ocd. </p> http://www.ocdaction.org.uk/forums/topic/fear-of-others-perceiving-me-as-gay#post-45561 Tue, 07 Sep 2010 18:28:48 +0000 melissamorgan1 45561@http://www.ocdaction.org.uk/forums/ <p>Hi Red Ruby.</p> <p>You are not gay, and people will never percieve you as gay.<br /> I believe you need to come to terms with the word gay. Its fine to be gay. Gay is just the way some people are. My best friend is a lesbian. You need to shut the homophobia away.<br /> Then, you will realise, that a) It is ok to be gay and b) If people think you are gay, thats fine, because you know that you are'nt.<br /> All of this is in your mind, and when you come to terms with the whole gay thing and that it is just a way of life, you are going to understand that it doesn't matter what people think of you or what your mind says - because you know that you are not gay! </p> <p>Trust me, just be yourself around people - they will not think you fancy them!</p> <p>Take care, Melissa </p> http://www.ocdaction.org.uk/forums/topic/fear-of-others-perceiving-me-as-gay#post-45559 Tue, 07 Sep 2010 18:00:59 +0000 Red Ruby 45559@http://www.ocdaction.org.uk/forums/ <p>I was wondering if there is anybody else out there that is in the same boat as me, and if so, how do you deal with it... </p> <p>My OCD used to make me fear that I was gay/bisexual although these thoughts have disappeared. The problem is that fears of others perceiving me as gay are still stopping me from living as full a life as I should. Homophobia is rife in my family and this maybe contributes to me having this paranoia of what others think of my sexuality. Very often, when I see an attractive woman I think "oh no, she will think I am gay, she will think I fancy her, this is going to be awkward". As a result, I avoid certain social situations and I feel this limits my enjoyment of life.</p> <p>Can anybody relate to this or do you have any advice? </p> <p>Thanks so much, </p> <p>Red Ruby xxx </p> http://www.ocdaction.org.uk/forums/topic/hocd-am-i-alone#post-38165 Sun, 14 Feb 2010 20:08:28 +0000 kev79 38165@http://www.ocdaction.org.uk/forums/ <p>Well the lady i liked now just wants to be friends and now some my thoughts have come back not to extrememe but feel they have cause what has happened but i have support so i will get through this </p> <p>Speak soon room </p> <p>Kev </p> http://www.ocdaction.org.uk/forums/topic/hocd-am-i-alone#post-38039 Thu, 11 Feb 2010 18:46:59 +0000 kev79 38039@http://www.ocdaction.org.uk/forums/ <p>hello Anne</p> <p>its still very early days and now this lady is not sure what she wants and wants to take things slowly which is what i want hopefully she will see im a nice guy she has had bad experiences with men as have i with women but i dunno i also hope it can work she says she likes me but we will see</p> <p>speak soon room</p> <p>Kev </p> http://www.ocdaction.org.uk/forums/topic/hocd-am-i-alone#post-38021 Thu, 11 Feb 2010 10:52:28 +0000 Anonymous 38021@http://www.ocdaction.org.uk/forums/ <p>Hi Kev</p> <p>Thanks for your honest and brave reply. I do so hope that you can make this relationship work. Beng honest and open is the only way. My husband said recently that he felt so left out when I would talk to professionals but not<br /> to him. Relationships can and do work for OCD sufferers. At least three of us ladies on the forum have been married for over 30 years. </p> <p>Looking forward to hearing from you soon<br /> Love<br /> Anne </p> http://www.ocdaction.org.uk/forums/topic/hocd-am-i-alone#post-38020 Thu, 11 Feb 2010 09:29:42 +0000 kev79 38020@http://www.ocdaction.org.uk/forums/ <p>thanks anne</p> <p>i know now i just say its ocd and dropped the H as that reminds me what it is and i do like this woman but with what i have it has at times when ive been with her ive thought do i like her yet i know in my heart i do but the doubt sometimes kicks in.</p> <p>She is aware of how it affects me and is very understanding just writing this is making me wanna cry cause i like her alot but like giles and many others have said its not nice and im lucky that i have people to talk to which helps but as soon as this arised its ugly head ive been working against it prior to this i did have another form of ocd which my aunt (aunt by marriage) where you think you need to goto the toilet (#2)alot so you find yaself looking all the time for a toilet cause the fear there is having an accident anyway ive said enough now and fingers hurt lol</p> <p>Speak soon<br /> Kev </p> http://www.ocdaction.org.uk/forums/topic/hocd-am-i-alone#post-37980 Tue, 09 Feb 2010 18:58:21 +0000 Anonymous 37980@http://www.ocdaction.org.uk/forums/ <p>Hi Kev</p> <p>You do sound as if you have symptons like Giles as he suggested ie you simply think you may be gay. I am still not sure why It's called HOCD as it sounds like all other OCD to me. For instance you fear and you doubt something like all of us. If you are attracted to this lovely lady, then you must try to put your doubts aside and enjoy the relationship if you can. I know it is really hard. In fact most of us will admit that OCD has a really bad effect on our relationships, making intimacy harder and creating mistrust on either side. </p> <p>Love<br /> anne </p> http://www.ocdaction.org.uk/forums/topic/hocd-am-i-alone#post-37979 Tue, 09 Feb 2010 18:40:18 +0000 kev79 37979@http://www.ocdaction.org.uk/forums/ <p>Yesterday was not to bad but today has been crap mainly i even typed into google can you just turn gay and majority of people say no your born with it but some people say you can ok there ignorant to HOCD or prob never heard of it but i know typing into google was wrong and prob made me worse but i think its the ocd cause yet again im checking.<br /> to me classic ocd symptoms but what makes things worse is ive met a woman i like and we have a kiss etc and she is aware of how i feel but surely if i was gay i would of not had the fear and break down in tears at times like i do</p> <p>Anyone's oppinions of my comments above or advice would be grateful </p> http://www.ocdaction.org.uk/forums/topic/hocd-am-i-alone#post-37894 Sat, 06 Feb 2010 15:18:39 +0000 kev79 37894@http://www.ocdaction.org.uk/forums/ <p>i thought i was alone there is also a group on facebook witch someone started and he has same thing i think everyone pulls together we can help each other i did also have OCD about going to the toilet alot i had to be somewhere that had a toilet i could get access to alot </p> http://www.ocdaction.org.uk/forums/topic/hocd-am-i-alone#post-37893 Sat, 06 Feb 2010 14:17:04 +0000 swan 37893@http://www.ocdaction.org.uk/forums/ <p>Hi Kev 79,<br /> Im reallly glad you posted this thread as I realised when I went on the webite that this applied to me, I always struggled with some of the things I did and<br /> had a real fear as to how people viewed me. as to the things I did. </p> http://www.ocdaction.org.uk/forums/topic/hocd-am-i-alone#post-37891 Sat, 06 Feb 2010 12:57:35 +0000 kev79 37891@http://www.ocdaction.org.uk/forums/ <p>i will dont worry and thanks for the messages people </p> http://www.ocdaction.org.uk/forums/topic/hocd-am-i-alone#post-37874 Fri, 05 Feb 2010 19:33:23 +0000 Truddles 37874@http://www.ocdaction.org.uk/forums/ <p>With determination and plenty of support you will get over it. It just takes a lot of effort and time.</p> <p>Good luck, keep posting.</p> <p>Trudy </p> http://www.ocdaction.org.uk/forums/topic/hocd-am-i-alone#post-37873 Fri, 05 Feb 2010 19:16:04 +0000 kev79 37873@http://www.ocdaction.org.uk/forums/ <p>The HOCD is very disturbing as you can understand any advice is appreciated and i heard people can get over it without medication but we will see </p> http://www.ocdaction.org.uk/forums/topic/hocd-am-i-alone#post-37869 Fri, 05 Feb 2010 18:48:58 +0000 Anonymous 37869@http://www.ocdaction.org.uk/forums/ <p>kev79, sorry if people are going off subject on your thread, it's just that this a community where we like to discuss many things and sometimes we go off at a tangent. Please don't feel that you or your original post is being ignored if this happens. &lt;img src=&quot;http://www.ocdaction.org.uk/forums/bb-plugins/bb-smilies/default/icon_smile.gif&quot; title=&quot;:-)&quot; class=&quot;bb_smilies&quot; /&gt; </p> http://www.ocdaction.org.uk/forums/topic/hocd-am-i-alone#post-37862 Fri, 05 Feb 2010 16:51:11 +0000 swan 37862@http://www.ocdaction.org.uk/forums/ <p>Hi,<br /> Website was useful and made me realsie that I have had some of these and still have some others. All I can say is that it hasnt been as bad since going on medication. </p> http://www.ocdaction.org.uk/forums/topic/hocd-am-i-alone#post-37856 Fri, 05 Feb 2010 14:55:41 +0000 kev79 37856@http://www.ocdaction.org.uk/forums/ <p>kinda bit of subject people but i know what you mean </p> http://www.ocdaction.org.uk/forums/topic/hocd-am-i-alone#post-37851 Fri, 05 Feb 2010 12:24:36 +0000 Truddles 37851@http://www.ocdaction.org.uk/forums/ <p>Giles,</p> <p>What can I say other than be yourself and then you'll be happier. Stop imagining the worse case scenario or you'll just make yourself depressed.</p> <p>Smile and see you soon. </p> http://www.ocdaction.org.uk/forums/topic/hocd-am-i-alone#post-37845 Fri, 05 Feb 2010 11:38:07 +0000 Anonymous 37845@http://www.ocdaction.org.uk/forums/ <p>You're right. The problem with society today, is that we just don't have time for anybody. And thats made me realise I've been bad to a friend of mine, who I didn't want to know anymore. It was actually a different matter with my friend. I wanted the life he has and I envied him for it, and got jealous when he got a job and made other friends, because I got used to chatting to him after work each evening. He always seemed to be ever present weeknights, except Friday and saturday (which was when his partner came over).</p> <p>I want to contribute more to society. I guess I want people to worship me and tell me I'm the greatest person ever and that they're not worthy. Then I could say to them, of course you are. Why do you think you're any less than me, or anybody else for that matter. I'd be kind of like a modern day Jesus Christ, except I won't get crucified. I'd probably get beaten to death though, because there are bound to be the chav neighbours circulating pedo rumours about me, which will inevitably lead to a vigilante mauling.</p> <p>Giles </p> http://www.ocdaction.org.uk/forums/topic/hocd-am-i-alone#post-37840 Fri, 05 Feb 2010 10:45:46 +0000 Truddles 37840@http://www.ocdaction.org.uk/forums/ <p>Hi everyone &lt;img src=&quot;http://www.ocdaction.org.uk/forums/bb-plugins/bb-smilies/default/icon_smile.gif&quot; title=&quot;:-)&quot; class=&quot;bb_smilies&quot; /&gt; </p> <p>OCD is a strange creature especially with the way that it can make us react to certain situations. </p> <p>We all can so easily read a post on the forum and misread the message the poster is trying to convey. At times I have not understood inititially what was being said by someone on the forum and I know several members that have contacted me upset about something they have read on the forum. But when the post is reread we can often see we read more into it than was intended or we just misread it.</p> <p>OCD tends to make us oversensitive. That combined with the poor way that we are treated by others especially the medical profession, can quite often lead us to over analyse things, posts included.</p> <p>My advice is - if you read something that initially upsets you, go back to it again after a break and reread it. It could well be that you misunderstood it the first time. </p> <p>I know none of us mean to intentionally upset each other, let's face it we have enough with nonOCDers upsetting us. </p> <p>Keep posting everyone</p> <p>Trudy </p> http://www.ocdaction.org.uk/forums/topic/hocd-am-i-alone#post-37839 Fri, 05 Feb 2010 10:23:17 +0000 Truddles 37839@http://www.ocdaction.org.uk/forums/ <p>Hi Giles,</p> <p>Please don't leave the forum we'd really miss you and your contributions.<br /> What I'm going to say next I want to say to everyone.</p> <p>Trudy </p> http://www.ocdaction.org.uk/forums/topic/hocd-am-i-alone#post-37833 Fri, 05 Feb 2010 09:11:20 +0000 Anonymous 37833@http://www.ocdaction.org.uk/forums/ <p>Hi Giles</p> <p>Your contributions are always useful. Don't leave. You have much to tell us. You have been open about thoughts which you have which a lot of OCDers would hide. Yet your type of OCD is featured in many of the books I have bought. I am learning something every day about the complexities of OCD and you have been integral to this process.</p> <p>Love<br /> Anne<br /> ps Looking forward to seeing you tomorrow. </p> http://www.ocdaction.org.uk/forums/topic/hocd-am-i-alone#post-37828 Fri, 05 Feb 2010 00:34:49 +0000 Anonymous 37828@http://www.ocdaction.org.uk/forums/ <p>That kind of upset me actually. I'll just not post again, if I've upset you. </p>